^ Im so sorry to hear about all of this NJ!!
My parents tell me the same thing all the time. They left due to security reasons among many other things.
Everytime Ive been to Pakistan, Ive never seen anyone in my house doing anything. Its when they come here, they have to clean the house, cook, etc. Life is harder here and so is raising kids.
PS - Things change when you beome a parent. You will do anything to keep your kids safe and ensure that they have a better life. That includes safety, a life without corruption, where you know if you work hard you will get the reward.
My parents sacrificed SOOOO much for their kids by leaving Pakistan. People don't realize that.
I ask my cousins in Pakistan if they ever had to make breakfast themselves, or clean the bathroom, unclog a toilet, wash their clothes. They are are like "NO" and I tell them - "jis din karna us din mujh say baat karna"