So do I…I don’t feel a working mom or stay at home mom has to justify their choices to anyone. I am working wife and will be a working mom. Is it easy? No. But I do believe every woman has the right to make choices that fit her and her lifestyle. Rabia the poster above said she worked through breastfeeding her son…does it make her a bad mother for pumping at work versus staying home and feeding her son? Or freezing her milk?
I don’t think so.
Also, I don’t know any working mother who misses her child’s birthdays or dumps her kid on someone else so she can run off to work. Never seen one. They will schedule everything around their kids and make them a priority at all times. But that doesn’t get noticed. Because they are going to work none of the hard work they actually pour into their families matters anymore.
There’s nothing wrong with being advanced, non-traditional, modern, working, etc etc etc. I think its about time women stopped feeling guilty for wanting to be simply human beings.
As for BBCD…he/she can vent all he/she wants. It doesn’t mean he won’t get an answer. Venting or posting your opinions on a public forum means you’re open for discussion…all kinds of discussion. If you can post, you can also get a response.
I am a working lady as well darling, my sister is a working mum, my mother has always been a career women yet left her job for long periods when family needed her…and i have never heard my mum or my sister taunt others non working women or even compare their way of life with theirs. In my surrounding , women study and work, some become housewives others carry on with their career. But never it has been seen as a big deal like women are making it into nowadays. Being a working a women is not a Mission Kashmir so please calm down ladies! No one can ever say it is harder to be working mum than a housewife. If a man or a housewife comment on your lifestyle, they don’t necessarily assume you should be doormat or your place is only in the labour room without epidural. A comment is not always nasty. I have noted that many British Asian working women are so defensive and seem to take all their anger or frustration of a tired life on other people who pass a mere comment or state their opinion. Each has their own opinions and . You had yours now deal with it without attacking the counterparty and enjoy a civilized discussion on difference of opinions. Don’t behave the way you don’t like others to behave or your years of hard working in education has been wasted big time!
Ps/ I can only talk about British Asians as I live in London and I do observe the difference between the European born Asians and the British Asians mentality at times.
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God bless you. A man saying something similar might see him castrated here.
