Mothers not breastfeeding their kids

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Re: Mothers not breastfeeding their kids

@Reha

I think women on both sides are very sensitive to this issue.

Can someone explain WHY a working woman would not get offended when critisized? WHY a working woman’s parenting skills are always up for debate? Her choices are ALWAYS questioned?

Explain WHY she would NOT get pissed off and tell people…I do this because I need to. Because I spent half of my life studying and no one has the right to point fingers at me unless they walk in my shoes. Parenting is not something ANY woman takes lightly. You call someone a bad mom because she works and she’s supposed to…do what? Give you a hug? Thank you?

Are people expecting silence?

Even more importantly…why bother trying to explain anything? Especially to men who think a woman’s place is in the labor room without an epidural because she is after…fitnah.

As for being modern and independent…there’s NOTHING wrong with being either one. There’s no reason any woman should feel embarrassed because she didn’t breastfeed or works.

Lastly…the entire point behind these long discussions that people keep making is DO NOT judge unless you walk in someone’s shoes.

Breastfeeding is good - DUH. Staying home with my kid all day would be great - DUH. But for some women its not an option. For those who feel the need to lash out at them - deal with it.

I am a working lady as well darling, my sister is a working mum, my mother has always been a career women yet left her job for long periods when family needed her…and i have never heard my mum or my sister taunt others non working women or even compare their way of life with theirs. In my surrounding , women study and work, some become housewives others carry on with their career. But never it has been seen as a big deal like women are making it into nowadays. Being a working a women is not a Mission Kashmir so please calm down ladies! No one can ever say it is harder to be working mum than a housewife.　If a man or a housewife comment on your lifestyle, they don’t necessarily assume you should be doormat or your place is only in the labour room without epidural. A comment is not always nasty. I have noted that many British Asian working women are so defensive and seem to take all their anger or frustration of a tired life on other people who pass a mere comment or state their opinion. Each has their own opinions and . You had yours now deal with it without attacking the counterparty and enjoy a civilized discussion on difference of opinions. Don’t behave the way you don’t like others to behave or your years of hard working in education has been wasted big time!
Ps/ I can only talk about British Asians as I live in London and I do observe the difference between the European born Asians and the British Asians mentality at times.