Mother's day (mother in law)

[bella88]

Re: Mother’s day (mother in law)

@CoughCough

But why wouldn’t you want to advise the op in a way that may potentially benefit her?
You and your comrades have thus far only managed to tell the op THIS IS WHAT CAN GO WRONG.
Rather than provide a good balanced argument, youve only provided the cons of showing affection to the MIL, and didnt even mention that there may be positives to sending her a gift. Thats what irked me.

You guys didnt give a good, balanced opinion at all. All actions have cons and pros. If you guys were able to explain the pros of sending the mil a gift, as well as the cons, I wouldnt be talking.

I understand what you mean actually.
But unfortunately, sometimes women think in a different and very complex convoluted ways. a gift sometimes is not just a gift to women, especially to potenital MILs. anyway, im sure OP will decide this based on what her fiance thinks as well. and if in their families this is the norm, then im sure it may even be a good idea to give a gift. but the reason she even asked here is because she must not be sure how her inlaws will react to certain gestures. I have personally heard a MIL saying things about her future DIL sending her gift as “abhi se makhan lagana shoroo kar dya”. but again, yes everyone thinks differently and maybe her MIL wont react like that. but for me, i would rather just stay safe and not bother with something which is not necessary.