Mother's day (mother in law)

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Re: Mother’s day (mother in law)

@bella88

Everyone here is giving advice according to what they would do in a similar situation. what makes you think I have no idea how to establish a relationship? I have personally seen such gestures being taken the wrong way by MILs. alot of times, such gestures are taken as ‘fake’ , especially if the girl isn’t really close to the MIL to begin with. not sending a gift on mothers day is in no way damaging a relationship, please get a grip.
the OP asked here for advise and obviously everyone is going to give different ones based on what they have experienced. you may have experienced something else with your inlaws but some of us have experienced and seen different behaviors.

i never said dont give advice. I’m just saying it’s bad advice. Like horrible.

If such gestures are taken the wrong way by MILs, then those MILs have no interest in developing a good bond with their DILs. That doesnt mean DILs shouldnt try. No one is born close, these things must develop and all it takes is one person to start. I don’t know why I’m having to say stuff a minor understands. Are you people that thick?

As for giving the op advice, yes you all have your experiences and it seems like you’ve all made some pretty bad decisions (not just this thread) but that doesnt mean you people give advice to the OP based on your own mistakes. That’s what seems to be the trend here.

So please get a grip, instead of asking for more details, you oh so wise ladies were like ‘nah dont send it. it MAY be taken bad’.
You call that advice? Not doing something because oh man something bad MAY happen?

That’s cowardice.