Mother's day (mother in law)

[bella88]

Re: Mother’s day (mother in law)

@CoughCough

Wow. Although I should stop being surprised when piss poor advice is given on here.

These are all the ones talking who have absolutely NO IDEA what it means to establish relationships. It’s like oh yeah when the paper is signed then you should give gift. What kind of advice is that? Worst advice.

OP, this is the new start of a new relationship. I would discuss with your fiance and ask him the significance of mother’s day in his family, if any. Seriously, just a cake or flowers would be enough. You arent trying to buy anyone’s love. And maybe if you can show the MIL that you think of her that much, then your life with her will be great before it even begins. She will think of you as being a kind and thoughtful person.

These gestures arent costly and yes the asshats of society may call you a suck up. Who cares, let them.

Trust me, the stuff you see on here is shameless, disgusting, ass kissing. Sending your to be MIL a small token is not ass kissing. It’s building relationships. These gestures go a long way. But I’d ask fiance first the significance of mothers day in his household.

Ladies who give this type of advice, please stop. You damage relationships.

Everyone here is giving advice according to what they would do in a similar situation. what makes you think I have no idea how to establish a relationship? I have personally seen such gestures being taken the wrong way by MILs. alot of times, such gestures are taken as ‘fake’ , especially if the girl isn’t really close to the MIL to begin with. not sending a gift on mothers day is in no way damaging a relationship, please get a grip.
the OP asked here for advise and obviously everyone is going to give different ones based on what they have experienced. you may have experienced something else with your inlaws but some of us have experienced and seen different behaviors.