Re: Mother’s day (mother in law)
Cough, I don’t mean to be rude but the reason I stated that it may seem odd for her to send her mother-in-law something out of the blue is that she has admitted that she does not have an intimate relationship with her mother-in-law (note, I said mother-in-law, not future mother-in-law). She mentioned that she only spoke to her about twice and does not often interact with her. This is why I suggested she send something to her mother-in-law along with whatever her fiance sends. With all due respect, it is not that difficult to read between the lines. Obviously, she should ask her fiance how their family handles Mother’s Day and take note of that and then proceed.
Also, let’s be realistic here. The OP and her fiance met independently and were dating prior and only involved their families when things became serious. Let’s not pretend that the OP has such a close, established relationship with her mother-in-law. Some people may (key word here is “may”) find such a gesture odd.
As far as advice goes, the impetus is not on the person giving the advice but on the person asking for it. It is up to them to evaluate the advice given and decide whether it is appropriate to their situation, which only the asker knows. The OP is a medical student, so she is clearly not an idiot. I’m sure she can ask her fiance and decide whether the advice given is appropriate and figure out what would be best.