So how has having a child/children changed your life? What pros what cons? How much different do you feel being, and how much different has your life become? Specially after the first child. I have heard stories about the changes inside out and upside down. So I was just wondering to have it out of you people too, does it really change one and one’s life, having a child? What kind of change, and to which degree? Do you miss anything about the time pre-child?
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i miss my peace. once you become a parent, you are never at peace. sure there are the sleepless nights, the spit ups, the getting sick, shots, tantrums, bodily changes.. etc etc etc
but peace.. id rate it number 1 on my list of things i have lost. how can you be at peace when your heart is walking outside of your body? you are just.. constantly thinking bout them.. you never stop thinking... its.. a vicious cycle that you cant break out of.. even if you want to.. and it gets worse as they grow older and the problems get bigger and deeper.
sighz
other than that... man do i miss just getting up and heading out the door ... but im sure that can be achievable once the kids are a bit older and can carry their things emselves.
and i miss my movies in the cinemas.. and relaxing sushi dinners... god do i miss them :(
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I so LOVED this. Such a true reflection of a motherly feeling. Oh bless :hinna:
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buss kuch na poocho. 
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whats he said... I am constantly thinking or talking about him!
My husband took me out on a date night while leaving our month old with my mom and lets say we didnt even finish the dinner and went back home..I miss him when he is not with me! I work full time so as soon as I get home, I pick him up and then he is with me until he goes to bed. I have no problem admitting that sometimes I wish I could go home and lie down for 10 mins but he is usually waiting for me sitting in the window so of course I feel guilty for doing anything else.. it also means I cant get to do any house work until we put him in bed so yes exhausting but rewarding!
my relationship with husband hasnt changed much except we cant leave the house one the fly.. we used to decide a getaway weekend on the spur of moment and leave not caring if the drive was 2 hours or 7 hours.. with him now, everything needs to be in order... we need to plan things in advance keeping in mind the number of hours of drive, rest breaks, etc etc! so its a bit different, other than that we usually make up for that by making "on thefly" trips to home depot, marshalls etc with him and his cheerios in the stroller :D
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Life has completely changed but for the better. I have never felt more accountable in my life. Gone are the careless days - from now on its on you how you raise up these little people into good human beings. It's no easy task.
The first 5 years are tough in terms of missing out on the movies, trips and things that you enjoy but after that age - you get all that back.
What you don't get back is just thinking for yourself. It is like your brain grew another quadrant for the things you have to juggle. Your schedule use to revolve around home, career, well being also now includes school activities, soccer, quran classes, packed lunches etc.
Having said that, I am probably 10 x more productive than I was when I didn't have kids.
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uff ,ma sha Allah you all are so full of love now, I bet you lot didnt have it earlier too 
Your whole Outlook changes, being a parent myself has made me realize my own parents worth. It has also taught me that my parents are not perfect and that I need to forgive them and love them just like we do our kids.
I am in a constant state of worry and guilt and fear. My older one goes to the park and when he gets bullied it makes me cry , sometimes I protect him sometimes I can't. And I feel guilty when my child doesn't behave perfectly thinking it is my fault that Im not raising him right.
But the gush of love you feel for your kids is just not describable. It keeps on growing stronger and stronger
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in some sense that statement is true… that children fill the void of unconditional love.
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i'm a better person. i try to slow down and actively take in moments so i can remember them always iA. his first steps, his first "mama", his first time being silly or laughing out loud. i can be type-A when it comes to certain things in life, but i've eased up a lot since his arrival. i'm definitely a more laid back parent than i ever thought i'd be and i think its in large part to how easy going and laid back he is mA mA. i don't let the little things phase me. i just try to let him be who he is and guide him along the way to better behaviour when he acts out.
i'm more patient and kind with my own parents, not that i was horrible before (well, not always :/) but now i really, truly understand what they went through while raising us, how they felt, and why they said and did the things they did which, at the time, i thought were ridiculous and weird. but i get it. and i appreciate them so much more.
as for the kid, well, there are no words to describe that kind of love. it sounds like a bad hallmark card, i know, but its one of those things that you need to have a child to really feel because nothing else compares.
but i'm also more anxious, worried and stressed when it comes to the kid. i worry constantly about how i'm raising him and pray always that i do a good job, that i am a worthy mother to him, that i don't **** him up as he grows, that he'll always love us. because my older brother is estranged, i live in constant fear of the same happening to me (God forbid!). i've only now begun to realize the depth of my parents loss.
parenting is never boring, that much is a guarantee.
and everything khawa said. the peace, the pick-up-and-go, the movies in theatres and not at home lol. but really, i remember the days before he came along but i don't miss them in that i'd ever want to go back to that time. that was then, this is now, and this is so much better because he's here.
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I’ve changed for the better. My daughter has taught me how to be patient. You’ll need a lot of patience with a child (Especially at nights lol). I’ve grown more in these two years than I have in a lifetime. Because of her I’ve discovered the more important things in life. It’s not all about me, I have other people in my life to take care of and others to love.
You definitely reevaluate your priorities, you come second and your child comes first and that’s how it’s suppose to be!
Thanks to my little girl I’ve matured a lot! Sometimes I surprise myself! I’m such a mom. At 23 I’d rather be discussing what brand of diapers is better or how to make a no-sew tutu than what new shows are on TV this season 
But I’m not ashamed, ever!!! I love being a mommy.
Things like not having enough “me time”, not being able to go out with your husband without baby as much as before and not being able to sleep in are things that don’t bother me. When I see my baby smile at me in the mornings and give me hugs .. ahhh!!! It makes up for everything I’ve “lost”.
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I stopped lying, started watching my acts and make sure they are ethical - basically over all i started working on becoming a better person, a person who can be good example for his kids.
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the changes are too many to list......a lot have been already listed in the thread.
personally I have become a lot more patient.....more conscious of all the things around me that I have no control over......kind of scary......so this realization has driven me to my faith.....in such a good way!!!
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everyone has said so beautiful things!loved each n every word!
i will say the same!
motherhood has made me more patient,strong and responsible...
i miss that time when i have to watch a movie or go out or take dinner whenever i want to but i do not want that time back....
my baby's smile and his action of raising hands towards me to hold him,
his messy face when i feed him food lol,his giggles while playing,or my baby just sitting/sleeping on my lap is the greatest joy of my life!
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It has made me become a better person...from the choices I make about what to eat to the way I live my life and leave an impression,everything is focused on the kid and not myself.I am more patient,I deal with anger way better than I ever did before...and it is way easy for me to stay calm when anything is going topsy turvy.
It has also made me a little coward and I am not sure if it is a good thing or bad.I fear all sorts of things and pray that me and my family stay safe from everything bad.
It has made me value things I did not value before and it has made me realize that the issues I used to sulk over in the past are mostly not worth it.
It has made me believe that miracles happen and it has made my faith stronger.
It has made me cherish and enjoy little things I never noticed before like birds in the sky and squirrels on the trees.
It has made me a happier and content person,and hence a little more towards being a better person than I was before.
Yes I do miss the freedom to do anything anytime I used to have before becoming a parent,but there is nothing I would take over being a parent.
Thanks to Almighty a million times for this miracle in our lives...!
I also feel we have become more of ammi-abu than husband-wife and we are always talking about the kid,but it is a good thing and a part of growing up...:)
Just saw this and I loved it. “When we adults think of children, there is a simple truth which we ignore: childhood is not preparation for life; childhood is life. A child isn’t getting ready to live; a child is living. …we have forgotten, if indeed we ever knew, that a child is an active participating and contributing member of society from the time he is born. Childhood isn’t a time when he is molded into a human who will then live life; he is a human who is living life.” -Professor T. Ripaldi
My home is not messy it is lived in.
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Gosh!
I love all ov your replies on this thread..
I agree with em all, can't think of anythin more to add.
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mirage is becoming a genius at parenting threads!
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^ Thanks for writing this much only. I saw your name posting here, and I thought, whoa!! we preggers dont even belong here, (not as yet 
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We will have our time and we will make a come back here 
And till then, just keep feeding off the BEAUTIFUL replies here, from the parents already.
I LOVED each and every post hands down. I just wish it never stops. I mean it just so reinstates one’s faith in the most beautiful relationship in the world: parenthood. All the parents just so relate with each other in a strange, divine manner. And would you know, each of yours soul is glittering through your posts. I always thought being a parent was divine. But now I am convinced it does make one divine. I am loving reading the love you people are so full of. Bless you all. 
group hug
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I am still waiting. I know you have SO MUCH to say. Just do that one fine morning. Or evening. 