Re: Mother tongue.
I’m not suggesting that you can’t. Just that the language brings a lot of that with it.
I think we’ve been around this bush before so I won’t press. We simply have differing views on teaching our kids urdu. I am staunch on it and you don’t see a purpose behind it.
I think I always get baited by this subject because the language and all that relates to it is dear to me (not that it isn’t to you) and seeing it die or be relegated to “unnecessary to make an effort because it will die anyway” is very discouraging.