Mother or Wife? Pick One.

[Maham]

Re: Mother or Wife? Pick One.

@girl_on_ice

I know this is abt mother or wife…but

I have lived in a joint family wid one kitchen one drawing room..and two bedrooms each for me n my sis in law(one for us and one for the kids)and one bedroom for the eldest bro,he is still unmarried,…alhamdulilah we did this for 17 yrs..we are now both living in 5/6 bed homes independently,and we miss the company wen we used to sit together as a family esp iftari’s or wen we wud catch up on gossip at breakfast without the men…lol…
we had our fair share of hard times n disagreements and 7 kids in one house isn’t easy…but tolerance and compromise is the main way that helps make life easy and give each other space to do thr own thing…
thr are two main things i need to tell u here…
1.both mother in law and father in law died b4 either of us wr married but wr alive for our engagements..
2.I,m a british muslim living in pakistan..and never visited, lived in pak b4 marriage…I had my stuggles,but today alhumdolilah,my eldest is married and son is in uni so only youngest to look after…now looking for my own bahu…so hope the girls of today can live in tolerance and compassion
too..

Thank-you. U said it all beautifully. I only wish there were more people like you and sadly our society is becoming too westernized for this where as people like you who are from west have become so homely.
Kuddos to you.