Re: Mother or Wife? Pick One.
There are literally a million references from top scholars saying it’s better not to live in a joint family but you’re choosing to ignore them cos it doesn’t match up with ur point of view (what does ‘the BIL is death mean’ to you??).. Why not post just ONE reference from a reputable Islamic source to try and prove ur point that the joint family is preferred?? Oh yeah, you can’t.
Seeing as tho u’ve been saying all along that Islam favours the joint family shouldn’t the onus be on you to prove it with actual verses from the Qur’an cos it’s basic Islamic logic that if something is not allowed or considered unfavourable it is mentioned in there, not the other way round (yet all u’ve come up with is vague references to how son should live near them ie. not necessarily in his parents home) along with ur own opinion that parents are not respected or looked after properly if son and DIL are not living with them.
NOWHERE in the Qur’an or hadith is the joint family system propagated.
If that was the case why is it practically only desis who have the DIL move into the inlaws home after marriage, not Arabs, South-East Asian Muslims or African Muslims?? The joint family system is a **Hindu **concept, not a Muslim one. Can’t understand why some ppl are having so much trouble getting their heads around that..