Mother or Wife? Pick One.

[Reha]

Re: Mother or Wife? Pick One.

@Decent_6Chora

and if sisters and brothers are not doing their part, should he also leave alone parents?

Personally, I will not like this pre-condition/term from my wife. my relationship with my parents is independent of my what my brother and sister does or dont

It does not matter what anyone else’s relationship is like with your parents…your job is to care for them.

Similarly, a nand cannot get angry with her bhabi for not doing things nand should be doing for her own parents.

If there are 4 children in a home…each one of them - boy or girl - has a responsibility towards his/her parents. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM. No one is exempt…not even the daughters. The daughters cannot expect their new bhabi to do their part. No, it doesnt work like that.

If husband wants to stop by, take them to doctor’s appointments, have them over for dinner, take them out on the weekend, take them to HAJJ, help them out, etc etc etc…that is his RIGHT and RESPONSIBILITY. Absolutely! Wife cannot stop him from being there for his parents.

But if she wants a space of her own in which she can be free, no takalluf, just her and her kids at night…what is wrong with that? Why the big fuss? Why does it have to be either/or? Why can people not have both?