Mother in law's boyfriend

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oh God. just when i thought that i had seen all the extreme MIL cases...

anyways, if this is indeed true, whatever your saas is doing is disgusting. aap ko aur aap k husband ko chahiye ke aap dono apni saas se baat kerein is mouzoo par. ya ghar chor dein. aisi gandi harkaton se ghar mein barkat nahin hoti.

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I just stopped reading after this post because the guy said what needed to be said. I don't think there can be a solution with anyone but the husband and the son.

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Even old grannies can attract men easily.

I like how stories like these fly in the face of those who lament that women have an expiry date and men dont want them after a certain age.

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Get a divorce ASAP.

How can u live in such a house.

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Only solution to this problem is to move out from this house & get your own place ..... take your SIL with you too ( how old is she? ) ..... do you guys have kids ? ........ don't live in this mental torture please as this is not at all a healthy environment to raise kids ....... & talking to your MIL wont help either as she is an adult, she knows what she is doing & what is good for her & what is not......

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benefit of the doubt if trolling.. is your fil completely stupid or what? how does he not have even an inkling of what his wife gets up to? your husband doesn't have the balls either to tell his mum to knock that crap off? or he can't tell his father? you as a dil, should do nothing. it's none of your concern if your husband or his sister are not phased by it. well enough to do something about it. i can understand that you don't want your kids to be brought up in such an environment, when the time comes.. as S02 has said.. simply move out. nothing will come of your anger and annoyance at her behaviour.

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are you serious woman? you''ve got no troubles in life so you're looking to create drama? you're disgusted by your mother in law...again holier than thou complex. calm down. focus on YOUR life...her son is ok with it..even your saas's sister in law is ok with it...you dont exactly know the relationship...you just know they talk on the phone...whatever that woman is doing at the age of 50 or so is her business...you have no right in judging her or saying anything to her (her son is there to do all that...so stop creating issues for everyone) when she's talking on the phone y dont u go to your room and hang around your own husband...

seriously...get over yourself and focus on your own life. i think your mother in law will find her just end whatever she may be doing. she's not hurting you in any way.

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Mother in law's boyfriend

Look on the bright side. If your MIL ever tries to create trouble then you can threaten her with knowledge of someone being her BF.

First of all I don't think this is a real thread. Seems like a troll. But anyways if this shameless woman exists pray for her.

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i guess this can be the 2013 thread of life1. anyway, how much of a "boyfriend" can he be if your mil's daughter drops her off to meet him? maybe he's just her bestfrand from like 50 years. y u assume worst possible scenario, nimra :\

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She is not hurting her but in a way she is ….. hurting someone is not physical always …. She is hurting her mentally …... the thing is all are living under one roof & this environment is disturbing her …… MIL’s kids might have a habit of living in such an environment but she clearly doesnt as we can see from her post …. She cant put up with this crap I think ….

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Meray sath yeh masla hai k aik sath hum log reh rahay hein ..... jis din woh bf se mil k ayin us k bad nxt few days tak mera un se bat karnay ko ya un ki shakal dekhnay ko dil nahin karta _ajeeb se nafrat mehsoos hoti hai.....ahista ahista khud ko normal karti hn to phr koi new chize ya drama kar deti hein.........ghar ka ajeeb sa mahol hai _ sab aik dosray se hafa hafa aur door door

abhi bhi aunty phone peh hein aur mujhe itni nafrat mehsoos ho rahi hai un se__ unhein lagta hai k mujhe khuch pata nai aur waisay bhi shakal se mein intehayi bewaqoof lagti hon unhein (baqol un k ).........lekin mera dil karta hai k kisi din cheekh cheekh k bata don unhein k mein sab janti hon !
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between FIL is doing night job too :)

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You should be happy she is busy with her life and not poking noses in your business like most mils do

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Nimra, I think you should not involve yourself in this situation. Your mil is an adult woman, is aware of what she is doing and still chooses to do it. You shouldn't stress yourself or suffer mental anxiety over another person's bad decisions. If you're concerned about your mil "morally" or religiously, you shouldn't be. Fortunately, we all go to our own graves and won't be held accountable for the transgressions of other people. Your mil's decisions will have no impact on you. Aside from that, she is an adult and knows what she doing and the possible consequences of her actions. Let her worry about her life.

If you're concerned about your future children being exposed to such behaviour and the apparent acceptance of it, the best course of action is to move out as soon as possible. Another issue is the potential for unnecessary arguments or disagreements with your husband over this matter. The fact that her relatives are aware of her behaviour and are enabling it is another matter entirely and that is best avoided as well. Overall, the wisest choice is to move out and let your in-laws sort out themselves out on their own.

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So u can live in filth and be fine with it! !

And if her SIL and husband is OK with it that doesn't change anything.

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Her mil's atrocious behaviour will have no impact on her, so she would be right not to get involved. We all go to our own graves after all. God will judge her mil accordingly. There is no need for the OP to do so as well. Instead, she should concentrate on her own marital life and move out, if she is so bothered by her mil's behaviour.

I'm willing to bet that more than half of all the drama and gossip in desi families could be avoided if people minded their own business and concentrated on their own lives. Honestly, what good will come of the OP getting involved? That would only serve to antagonise her mil, which will only lead to further drama and possible confrontations with her husband.

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Yes, she shud move out and if she can't, she shud leave that house. People living under one roof share their lives, one can't be oblivious to it. Her daughter drops her to her lover!!!

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Iconoclast is right in that the actions of just one family member will impact the others. I don't quite agree with the view that this will not/should not/ affect the OP because she is only a DIL or a wife and not the MIL's niece or blood relation. If your spouse is stressed due to any reason, it will definitely impact you and your marriage.

However, Nimra, I don't think you should take matters into your own hands and confront the MIL. First, it needs to be proven without a doubt that your MIL is actually having an affair. The most that you can do is talk to your husband and let him and his siblings be the ones to decide how this should be handled. Let him/them figure out how to talk to MIL and what steps should be taken. But until that happens and while you're in the same house, I don't think you should let this eat your mind and soul to the extent that you can't concentrate on other tasks in your life. You do need to divert your attention to other things, so you have less time to feed the "nafrat" for your MIL. Also, if MIL has overall been good to you in these past 3 years, you shouldn't hate her. If she is cheating, I'm not justifying it...but it would be healthier if you tone down the intensity of your feelings.

And I find it strange that your MIL is not making more of an effort to "hide" things which makes me question the relation of this man and the reasons behind your MIL's lackadaisical attitude.

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^Definitely agree with the last bit..

I think there is more to this.. esp if her own kids are ok with it..