mother in law and double standards....

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Re: mother in law and double standards…

@nadz123

here we go.

so i broke my foot. my toe. im in plaster for a month. so far is been 3 weeks. and for the entire time ive been upstairs on my own floor. i came down for eid though. my inlaws are on the floor below. and due to age and their own illnesses they are unable to come up and down the stairs.

however not once have they asked me if im ok. hows my foot. not once have they asked if im hungry do i want somethig. my husband does everything for me. from food to cleaning etc. however when hes at work my bil brings up lunch and dinner { when they remember not as if im important enough to get it on time..lunch is usually 1.30…they give me at 2.30..etc}

reason for complaint? mil treatments of minor headache and etc of her daughter. when her daughter i unwell, we are made to or obliged to ask her contantly and sit with her and treat her like a princess. and this is minor ailments. when my mil is ill, if i don ask how she is atleast 5 imes a day she makes a fuss. she makes a fuss even though we all ask about her and offer her food etc. yet she cant carry out her own principles with me. so she can not come up, she can tex me. when she saw me on eid downstairs, she didnt ask even then.

her daughter is staying over for a few sdays and i had no idea she was here. she didnt even come and see me upstaits.

double stanadards is really affecting me and making me angry. it may sound petty, but i feel mad.

husband says he sees it too, he cares and loves me. wow. like that helps. has he spoken to his mother about her behaviour? no. so his oh jan relax don worry il talk to her…its been months of her akward behaviour he hasnt spoken to her yet makes me think he doesnt care enough.

You should be thankful for:

1. Your hubby does care for you.
2. Listens patiently to your complains without starting yelling at you because it annoys men when someone complains about their family members.
3. You have the freedom of moving around your own portion with little or no external interference.
4. You can leave your bed at whatever time suits you.
5. You can manage your kitchen and house affairs at whatever time you like to.

You should:

1. Show gratitude towards your hubby.
2. Reduce complaining.
3. Go downstairs and ask about the well being of your in-laws particularly your MIL. Even if she doesn’t ask about your well being, even then because she is a parent. Parents hold great expectations from their younger.
4. Extend a helping hand in case they are unwell.
5. Sit with them and talk about little things - dramas, current affairs, politics, latest fashions etc.

Over time this will break the shell of reserved-ness and they will be on good terms with you… If not all of them, at least some of them will be. Some battles can’t be won immediately but with patience and time.