Re: mother in law and double standards....
The day you stop expecting anything from your in-laws is the day you will find some peace. And you don't think it's important but be thankful that your husband knows and is on your side.
sigh yehi to batanay wali baat thi queen:)
It is a love marriage and I just did everything in his love. Not only that, yes, there had been times when I did what I wanted to do, like twice and thrice and the outcome was rather more intense... I was not clever enough to compete with them. My thoughts were limited, I could just see things that I wanted to see, after getting myself in the situations, the outcome was not what I wanted. I tactfully tried to control the situations but every time they turned the table. Summary, I was logical and they weren't! Any logical person would understand me but they wouldn't.
My good deeds turned wrong on me and their cunning sharp minds started winning over me.
Then, my hubby said, you have taken your turn and now you do as I say.
Initially, it seemed me odd because most of the times, I had to bow and do according to their will....... it made me hurt and my ego. A couple of times I questioned my hubby that what you say seems you want me to do what they want me to do and every time he used to say me, just do as I say, do NOT question, trust me.. and when you say you trust me, it leaves you with no option of questioning me. You should trust that I would never get you in trouble and I would never let you down.
Because I had it enough, I thought, lets give it a try!! so controlling and suppressing myself.... I started what he used to say. Every time I had questions but I just didn't raise them and seriously................. I TURNED THE TABLE!! in longer run, it works.
My hubby also helped me learning their natures. A lot of problems solved by then too.
He took sessions, lol, seriously, taught me how would who behave in what situation.... !!
It helped me getting rid of misconceptions!!! He really helped me a lot.
I say, my hubby keeps balance and thats what works. By time, I learnt to control my ego, my emotions, my anger and my sarcasm. Its he, who made me this. If he would have been supporting me or them entirely from the day first during issues, things would be in wrong directions, today. No one can raise finger on me now, that I can say :)
