Ria, if you’re truly interested in helping this girl, you can’t just resign yourself to the thought that “Oh so n so is too busy and won’t have the time” …OR…“It’s all been ingrained and nothing can be done.”
If you sincerely desire to help…then you HAVE to create the time somehow. And you HAVE to meet up with some people and arrange a plan or maybe convince them to help you out…plan out a schedule or plan of action…and just follow it. Maybe these guys (your cousin) might know some other guys who would be willing to help. Sometimes, with the right words, you can persuade a person into doing a good thing to make a difference in someone’s life. Try it out. Try putting aside some time to figure this out…figure a way to get in…talk with other people (perhaps your cousins). Talk to the cousin that HATES them. That hatred could be motivation for him to figure out a good plan. You all can sit together and scheme. Two heads are better than one…some good idea might come up.