pretty simple.
he is NOT to be shared.
he has to be not shared. otherwise, he will not be a husband.
a heart of a woman is a ‘complex’ as in a building.
something that no one can understand, especially a woman’s husband, unless he is fully able to read through the mind of the person, the woman he is married to.
yet, can a woman do justice to a split man as a consequence to him being granted self-spliting with many spouses for what ever reasons?
. It is practical. People being doing it for agesssssssssss
. Islam permits it.
. Women can support women i.e. In time of child birth or sickness
. Can help build extended family
. Love need to be dissolved/Diluted (Aristotle)
. Fun
if its islamically allowed then who are we to question it? Issues arise when men take advantage of the allowance and rather then take it as a responsibility, they take it as a privilage.
fair rnough. given the chance of someone getting split and being able to do so with a sheer sense of same allowance you spoke of, who would delibrately choose not to split himself? why? what would be the qualities in that kind of male?
No never! Husband cannot be shared..unless i am terminally ill/dying..or barren..
Polygamy while it is allowed...but is not encouraged, very similar to divorce...it is allowed, but not very much encouraged. Both come with strict rules and regulations to follow..
*Polygamy is not encouraged in the Noble Quran, nor Allah Almighty had allowed it because He really liked it. He was clearly careful to highly discourage polygamy to men by telling them "but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one...(4:3)" which clearly orders men to either be fair or to not marry at all, despite the fact that we lost many men, Allah Almighty still didn't want polygamy to really take place. That's why He later told men "Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire...(4:129)" which clearly nullifies the excuse that He gave them to practice polygamy. Is this a contradiction then? Absolutely not!. It clearly proves that when Allah Almighty allowed polygamy, He only allowed it because we (the Muslims) had an emergency; we lost almost half of our men if not even more. When Islam later became much stronger and Muslims defeated the infidels in the continues battles that were forced upon them (the Muslims), Allah Almighty nullified the excuse that he gave to men to practice polygamy, which would then lead to prohibiting polygamy altogether. *
its all a mind set, in old sikhism, a woman use to have many husbands, something that is so taboo that we cant even think of it as a possibilty, let alone talk about it.
I know a middle eastern lady who love married a pakistani friend of mine and she said that she does not mind if he marries more than one. It was Okay for her cause its very mormal thing from the culture she came from.
Over the period of time, as we got into justifying TV, music, nudity, dance and waht not as part of our culture, we justified monogamy so much so that for many of us, its next to sin ..
Prophet mohammed married many and divorced none. So saying that polygamy is discouraged as much is divorced is not the right thing
For women in the middle east, sharing the husband is quite natural as it happens quite often over there.
For us desi women, I don't think we have anyone in our family for generations who has been polygamous, and if the issue has arised, divorce has taken place first. So I guess it's a lot to do with what seems normal to us.
For women in the middle east, sharing the husband is quite natural as it happens quite often over there.
For us desi women, I don't think we have anyone in our family for generations who has been polygamous, and if the issue has arised, divorce has taken place first. So I guess it's a lot to do with what seems normal to us.
one of my cousins has 2 wives.
One of my brother was married to 2 women for couple of years.
TLK, presently circumstances do not encourage polygamy, currently there are no thousands of new muslim converts (women), nor we are at war. The people you mentioned, as well as our Prophet..majority of the women they married were widows, a lot older, or divorced.
Prophet Muhammad (saw) was married to Hazrat Khadija for 25 years, until she passed away.
Chanda, don’t forget the most important reason for which polygamy was established… the simple fact that men are lustful creatures. During those days, men had several wives and concubines. You are right, how many of these polygamous men do you know today, who actually married widows or slaves or what have you…it’s usually affairs and such. And because it’s allowed it’s a way of legalizing what could be considered a sin otherwise. So yeah, that privilege is indeed a cover up for a weakness. That’s a good way of looking at it
Also, the thing is that since it is allowed in Islam, if a man's got to go for it he can. Women have the right to divorce and receive mehr, and in this country, assets as decided by law. So in worst situations, there is a way out. In some parts of India, strict hindu rituals ask for a widow to be burnt with her husband, or divorced ladies don't stand a chance of re-marrying. Islam is the only religion, if practiced per shariah, gives women more rights than any other religion we know. Unfortunately, our culture is so influenced by non-Islamic practices that we are lost most of the time.
Well if man were lustful, then Allah would have provided Adam with many Eves!! thats preposterous!!
And he wouldnt have said ' O Mankind! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate
Nor would he give Man a brain..to think with...
Lust presents a weak and a baseless argument for a man to be polygamous.
Yes it does, I agree, and it sounds weird, but why do you think all these guys go for it? Don’t tell me it’s to save the planet or for world peace .
Did you read the other thread in Life about the muslim guy who now wants to marry a sikh girl as a second wife? Was it because he dreamt that she would convert, become a great muslim and spread Islam, or because she was poor and needed a home, or simple because his hormones were out of whack?
Niksik..you seem to be brainwashed :D
if they all go for it...it doesnt make it permissible, or ok..or whatever they say...only Allah will decide!! I dont want us women to be in denial..or go with whatever the men say...if the reason is not in the QURAN it is not to be made part of the norm or the belief system..I am sorry but there are many texts and books written for the sole purpose of making us astray....
No Chanda, I am not brainwashed girl! Believe me, this is one part of Islam I do not really get. The fact is that a muslim guy who marries more than one wife must fulfill all his obligations toward each one of them equally. How many do it, we do not know, we will never know and only Allah can judge anyone for their acts or intentions. But the guys still do it because it’s allowed. The reasons that were outlined at that time don’t even apply today. However, the rule is still effective. I didn’t make it up and if I had my way, I’d have all the Muftis of the world declare a fatwa against it
yeah i did..and i responded…
Niksik..neeyat is something I truly believe in..and Allah will reward you for your Neyat..as well as your actions (unless they contradict each other..for instance..some people while harboring bad neyat do something good just to show that they are good people)
Any of the above reasons, he technically cannot marry another woman without his current wife’s consent. He would have to divorce the present one..ie..it wont be polygamous in this case…its an either or situation.
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The fact is that a muslim guy who marries more than one wife must fulfill all his obligations toward each one of them equally. How many do it, we do not know, we will never know and only Allah can judge anyone for their acts or intentions. But the guys still do it because it’s allowed. The reasons that were outlined at that time don’t even apply today. However, the rule is still effective. I didn’t make it up and if I had my way, I’d have all the Muftis of the world declare a fatwa against it 