Hey - well I found out they still haven't cancelled the tickets....! So yeah. And they are being strangely nice to me..... Like really nice.
LMAO.....like I told you.........just empty threats. Canceling the tickets to Pak....empty threat. Kicking you out the house...empty threat. Calling the cops (funniest of em all that would really backfire on em)....empty threat. See a pattern here?
It's pathetic, really. Basically what's going through their heads is that they can see that the over-the-top drama of yelling/crying/making false threats hasn't worked on you.....so now they're hoping to confuse you by being nice. They probably think that being nice will soften you up....make you feel guilty.....make you think "My parents are so nice, so caring....I'm so bad for hurting them. Maybe I really am wrong here." It's a guilt-inducing strategy....a less obvious one. Don't fall for it. Continue staying strong. It'll be interesting to see how they react when they learn that even their niceness (hopefully) won't make you budge either.
I hope, PO, that when it's meant to be....you find someone truly amazing and compatible....and you never know.....that might happen sometime down the road. So, stay strong.
Hey - well I found out they still haven't cancelled the tickets....! So yeah. And they are being strangely nice to me..... Like really nice.
Dont fall for it...its another tactic! They have not cancelled the tickets which means they will now try this way because threatening you isnt working.
I know I find it ludacrious (not the RnB singer) - that they are behaving like this, like nothings happened? They do sigh and look at me with hurtful eyes, which I immediately look at them with the same expression. And they want me to sit with them, and I took my mum out for her errands and even bought her stuff.
I don’t think they are going to cancel the tickets. I think they might try to pull a fast one. (excuse my slang!)
They caused so much aggreviation - and laid out ground rules of me residing in their house - one being I can never go out with my friends ever again, as they think they are a bad influence. Which is ridiculous because I go out with them say once a month? and its often to lunch, or they came here - none that pubbing and clubbing, things I have never done.
And they thing is its ridiculous how I only had these thoughts since I have been associating with these people… I’ve known them since I was 12…
Just a couple days ago I was reading about the newly introduced "Forced marriage unit" who're trying to cut this nonsense out and have 'rescued' a few girls, from Pakistan.
If you go to Pakistan with them I'm afraid you will be forced into it.
I cant understand how parents could willingly force their daughter into a marriage when they know it'd make her miserable. I cant believe they're bringing religion into it, what they're trying to do is AGAINST ISLAM
P.O I am not surprised that they didnt cancel the tickets. They are playing games with you and will keep doing so untill they break you!
If I were you I would call the headoffice of the airline and cancel the tickets!!and not even tell them!!dont feel bad about doing it. and dont tell anyone. you are doing yourself and your family a HUGE favour by cancelling the damn airline tickets!!
btw how did you find out that tickets are not cancelled? If they havent told you, you can just act like you have no clue of who called in to cancel them!!!
Find a job asap and in the meantime try to get out of the house everyday!!! you cant stay healthy by staying there 24/7!!!
InshAllah things work out for your PinkOrchids, I am just finding it amazing that parents can play such mind games with their children. After bringing you up and caring for you for so long, how can they just dump you in any unsuitable situation now that you are older?
I just read on another forum about another British Pakistani girl who is going thru the same thing but her dad has threatened to divorce her mum if she doesn't go thru with it.. So pathetic her siblings and mum are blaming her for the way their dad is behaving.. When will this craziness end :(
im so sorry you are going through this. But you seem to be handling it very well. But I have a feeling that the fight is not over...stay strong and keep friends around you informed about what is going on.
By the way, when your parents say things such as you are going against Islam for not respecting their wishes, do you remind them they are going against Islam for trying to force their own daughter into a marriage?
Just want to let you know that this happens to guys too, like me! It was tough for me to convince them, and I don't think my parents are still happy with me and they still do give me hints sometimes and show that they're frustrated with my decision. I wish I could make my parents happy. :(
I don't know if I ever do want to marry now, because of all the guilt. Then again I'm young, so that will probably change.
I doubt this is easy for you. But its about time desi girls stood up for their rights. You can not be forced to do anything you don't want to do. I for one (for the zero value it has) am damn happy you are standing up for yourself and not giving into family and societal pressure.
And i can definitely understand how much difficulty & tensions she would be going through because of all this! :(
