Re: Morals and \ethics of Pakistanis living abroad
That’s my point here. You can’t possibly think American Pakistanis are this or that because if you do…generalizations can be and are made both ways.
Pakistanis that come to Pakistan to get a wife don’t live a gora life…they live a life that is a bit more westernized but not entirely either…that is why they want a Pakistani bahu. Someone who can keep their culture alive in their children. If they were entirely goray…they would want an American Pakistani for their kids to maintain a certain lifestyle.
As for the second part, its not my opinion at all…these are general impressions of people who when suggested to go back to Pak to get married…have.
Average Muslim families here don’t drink sharaab or club or date like you might think. Average Pakistani families are way too concerned with their image in front of other Pakistanis since our communities here are small and everyone knows everyone. People socialize and interact at their local mosques and rumors spread like fire. Families here are under a lot of pressure to keep their kids in line, religious and focus on education…they don’t have time anything else.
My sister has 3 kids…her eldest is 8 years old…my niece’s day starts with namaz, Qur’an class and then she proceeds to go to school, go to Karate class, come home, do homework, do her chores, eat dinner and go to sleep so she can do it all the next day. On the weekends, they spend all their time together as a family doing things they don’t get to do as a unit during the week.
Our routine growing up was the same…where do you see the time or inclination to smoke, do drugs, drink, party, have sex or even hang out? Life here is not what you people think it is…its fast paced and no one has a second to spare on things that aren’t important.
Sure, there are people who drink but they are so few that I don’t see how anyone can look at them as the norm…its like saying all Pakistanis are dying for a green card, lie, cheat and bribe. Is that true? Would you sell your soul for a green card or a chance to come to the States? If not, then the same goes for us here. When I watch Dawn and see those reporters busting businesses for selling poison in the form of snacks to people…should I think all Pakistanis are like that? That they’ll do anything for some money?
No one is better than anyone…dilon ka haal sirf Allah janta hai. Behtar hai ye kaam Allah tala pe chor diya jai.
If you have so many reservations about Americans, the answer is simple: don’t marry one. It will be too hard to trust someone and the adjustment alone will be enough to drive someone nuts. I’d marry where I am comfortable if I were you. You know Pakistanis and the environment very well…don’t leave a place where you already have something good going.