Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?
Infidelity is a symptom of a bigger problem: laxity in moral values or loose character. The bil is a coward, he’s selfish. I question how far he’s gone with his gf. Has he slept with her? If so, then add fornication to the lost. Has he slept with his gf while being married? If so, then that’s adultery. That’s A LOT for his wife to deal with. OP needs to urge her husband to fear Allah and do what’s right by this girl. This dilemma is not just his brother’s personal business. It will eventually become the whole family’s business when the girl comes to live with him. When her parents learn of the truth and are heartbroken and will "thoo thoo " on you guys, it will become a family matter. And since your husband and his mom and sisters are all conspiring to remain silent about this…then it’s not just his brother’s personal business. It involves the whole family cuz they are all involved in wrong-doing. It is this girl’s haq or right to know of her husband’s infidelity. Give this girl her haq so that she can discuss the situation with her family and make a better informed devision about her future.