Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

[Shak]

Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@DMLove

They are trying the guilt trip, and it hasn’t worked so far, so they are banking on your first theory that everything will change when she comes here.

I remember when we were in Pakistan for the wedding, it was the day of the mehndi. I walked out of the front gate to go to the car, and there he was on the phone talking to someone in hushed tones. I was close enough to hear part of the conversation. You know you can just tell when a person is talking to someone of the opposite gender…and based on what I heard I told my husband to talk to him. My husband said that he approached him and said that he still had time now to change his mind because if the person you are always talking to on the phone is more than just a friend, you are ruining people’s lives. He told my husband that he was ok with getting married to this girl and he was just talking to his friend. So if he was still at it with his gf during his wedding festivities, what makes anyone think it will be different now.

Wow. Just when you think you’ve read it all…this is a new low.

The guy’s a mess and in no position for any kind of mature relationship, let alone a sacred one like marriage. If he cannot respect his wife even during their mehndi/wedding(!!!) festivities without talking to his ‘gf’ on the side then coming to Canada for her will be nothing short of inviting poison in her life. And even if she divorces him, because of his lack of balls when he couldnt say no to marriage, he will pretty much have ended putting up the much (wrongly) stigmatized divorce tag on her. But better than ruining her life.