Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

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Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@Muzna

I’m guessing here because I don’t know the process for the US but in Canada you don’t have to have a job to sponsor your spouse. Apparently there is some law that prevents “zalim zamana” from keeping spouses apart.

As for the inlaws helping her out…I suspect they’re actually hoping that their son will “automagically” fall in love with his na’ee nawaili dulhan when she arrives and some sort of divine intervention will help to turn his heart in her favour. Their last resort will likely be guilt…zamana kya kahay ga? Haye hamari izzat, etc., etc.

They are trying the guilt trip, and it hasn’t worked so far, so they are banking on your first theory that everything will change when she comes here.

I remember when we were in Pakistan for the wedding, it was the day of the mehndi. I walked out of the front gate to go to the car, and there he was on the phone talking to someone in hushed tones. I was close enough to hear part of the conversation. You know you can just tell when a person is talking to someone of the opposite gender…and based on what I heard I told my husband to talk to him. My husband said that he approached him and said that he still had time now to change his mind because if the person you are always talking to on the phone is more than just a friend, you are ruining people’s lives. He told my husband that he was ok with getting married to this girl and he was just talking to his friend. So if he was still at it with his gf during his wedding festivities, what makes anyone think it will be different now.