Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

[Muzna]

Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@TwitTwit

I have had two friends marry someone in the states, divorce, go back to pak and get married again. They are both very happy now.
It would be much harder to get divorced and establish yourself or live in a foreign country without close friends and family.

Taboo or not, chances to remarry are more back home.

Did those two friends obtain landed status/residency in the USA before they headed back to re-marry?

@TwitTwit

I just hope she has the courage to take the right decision now and not think everything will be okay once she moves here. The guy is a looser and he has a long way to go. She is going to have it tuff either way. (I am surprised her parents let her marry someone who is 30 with no job or schooling. Living in a foreign country shouldn’t be treated as a qualification)

You’re right…living in a foreign country shouldn’t be treated as a qualification. But the sad reality is that it is often a bigger qualifier than anything else for some classes in Pakistan.

She is going to have it tough either way…might as well endure difficulties for the greater reward. (And no, I’m not suggesting that milking the guy or his family for their money or property is the greater reward. But a future in a country where there are significantly more opportunities may be.)