Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

[Paheli00]

Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@Muzna

I guess my questions were geared more towards how I would see myself and reconcile with my own conscience and not what “someone sees it as”. I’m not too taken by what others think but what I think of myself is important to me and that’s where this struggle exists.

Honestly this particular situation wouldn’t bother my conscience at all. Yes I know how the culture back home is. But we’re still talking about an adult woman who has been told directly by her husband that he wants a divorce. There is a point people need to take responsibility for their own choices and not blame culture or lack of warning for their own [further] misery. I have a lot of sympathy for ConfusedMe yet she herself admits that even IF someone had told her about the white GF, she still would not have called things off immediately and tried changing the husband’s mind! This is exactly what OP’s SIL is doing.

@ConfusedMe

I wouldn’t have called things of immediately, but I would have told everyone that I needed more time to decide. I would have talked to him, also gone and visited my in-laws in the country where they live with my parents.