Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

[Muzna]

Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@Reha

I think you should consider ConfusedMe’s post seriously. She is a living example for you to see what will happen if you don’t. At least where she is, she has a support system. Here, she will have no one.

I feel for your BIL’s wife…really. And I hope that she is a very strong, independent and educated woman who can not just face what’s coming her way…but takes your in-law’s to the cleaners for it.

I don’t know if I agree.
While she may end up with no support system (in terms of relatives) here, she will have an opportunity at a much more secure future in terms of being able to support herself. Depending on whether or not she has a career there will determine how badly things could go there. (In fact, even if she does have a career there it will be harder simply due to the societal taboo against divorced women.)
If she has her wits about her she can really land firmly on her feet here.

@DMLove

Would it be cowardly to do it anonymously? In a letter or email? And how much do I disclose? I just don’t want this coming back to me.

No…it’s not cowardly. Your desire to do the right thing is admirable. Good for you for having a conscience that still nags you.
Do it in a way that leaves least likelihood of being discovered because ultimately the consequences of your actions will be something only you will have to live with…just like Paheli has said.