Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?
I tend to agree with the advice you are giving but let me ask you this…
if this was you, how would you reconcile your action (in this case perhaps inaction is more apt) with your conscience?
I know you are suggesting that the wife was told flat out and that should be warning enough, for me it would be, but let’s keep in mind the cultural taboos associated with divorce coupled with her inlaws reassuring her that everything will be okay once she gets here and the impact of these. Divorce is a huge thing to tackle for people that have been born and brought up in the west where views are more liberal and the environment more supportive; it must feel like the end of her life considering views back home.
The second part of my question is unrelated to this thread but the whole idea of “consult with your hubby and do what he thinks is best” just wreaks of shifting responsibility onto a “safe excuse” rather than taking the moral high road. While I’m recommending that same, I don’t know if I like it.