Re: Moral Dilemma
My irrational advice as always. To be taken with a heavy dosage of sanity.
Detach yourself from this relationship if you want nothing from it. If a girl trust you with personal stuff esp in such a situation she is looking for something out of it. The large the emotional dependency the worse it will be for you all. You do her no favor by keeping her on the line as a friend. She is after all a human. She deserves to be told. I am guessing of course but she trusts you and depends on you for emotional comfort and support. What happens if you marry someone else? Emotional dependence is a very dangerous thing esp if you lose it.
Secondly consider the family angle. They are friends. Family friends at that so i suggest you make it very clear what you want in your mind and then go from there. Don't keep her tagging along. Having any emotional involvement with her from your side or hers is going to make this matter worse.
Also she has trusted you with a secret something she holds dear i feel like bitch slapping you across the internet for posting it on a public forum. The question to me is not one of ohh its the internet. Its one of trust. Do you think she would like this being discussed?
Let the girl down easy. Inform her of what you feel if it is anything. At the end of the day you have two questions:
- Do you want kids?
- Do you want her?
I think from all that has been said is that she can have kids with this process. So the question remains do you want her? You have to decide and you have to decide quickly. You do her a disservice and yourself by keeping an emotional attachment when you have no clue what you are going to do.
Plus i am gonna get on my high moral horse on this one and insult all you who said he owes her nothing. Utter bull****. There is an emotional bond there where i am betting he is happy. No woman in her right mind opens up about such information to a complete stranger. Think of it yourself.
Dope straighten this mess out. You like her or you don't. If you don't, be nice be gentle and end it.
And lastly - few men realise is that if a woman is dependent on you, emotionally most of all and you don't think you are leading her on you really need a reality check. Women in general do not confide in every tom dick and harry nor they rush to a guy to make them feel better unless there is something more to it. You ain't a girlfriend dope. You have a pair of testicles. Use them.