the groom has to give mahr to his bride doesnt he?...my hubbi said he knows all thr tradtions and stuff and will continue to give me gifts bcuz he wants 2 not bcuz he has to.even tho he is not wiv me ere yet he still sends gifts and little surprises.which is sweet......i wud prefer sumone give me gifts whole heartidly..not bcuz he mum said or cuz he has to........my hubbi said when my sister got married evryone told my BIL to give her a gift and he didnt, he gave her nufin at all.......buh hey everyone's different