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Wow! Even as an unmarried guy I feel bad for you people... I hope my mum isn't like this to my wife :)
Anyway, speaking from an Islamic POV, I once heard one Moulana say that a wife only had 2 responsibilities. 1 Is to raise the kids and the other is to ahem satisfy the husband (and hopefully vice versa).
All other things like cooking and cleaning are done out of the goodness of your hearts.
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girlfriend i know exactly what u r going through…done that been there and out i m…plz do not misinterpret me but i no what u r talking about cause i went through alot of crap and i started to tell them when i m going and when i will b back but still my MILLY was never 
satisfied and so when ever i would no my man would b coming home i would go sit in between them and let them talk while i sit there and listen to there B.S. 
…and i new what i had to do…but that is besides the point and i wanted to give u a suggestion, can u not go out with ur gf in the time when ur husband is at work so atleast u have ur time with ur gals and she can’t complain either and if she does just tell him i was home all along…and if things still don’t seem to work then its tie u need to start taking ur husband out and try to give less time with his mom and try to spend more time with him…try it , i might work and plus i dont know to much of ur situation but if i can b any help im all ears to u and here for u so good luck and also have u tried to invite ur friends over for dinner so ur MILLY would no for a fact that u r a nice girl after all and which i m pretty sure u r no doubt about that cause it always happens to the nice ones…heck i know what it feels like to b in that situation…GOOD LUCK!!! ALL THE BEST…ur well wisher…and also just to let u know dont feel like u dont haveany one to talk to about this …MAIN HOON NA…
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this note above me was actually for the young lady who is having pb with her mil/husband where a in her mil will not allow her to go out...............so sad
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Mrs. Shikra
would it not b wise for u tell them ok now if u dont like the way i cook for u then why dont u do ur cooking for ur self since we all know that it is not healthy for them to eat how they want to eat but also give them some sort of an example
like 4 instance not that i m saying they r not human GOD 4 FORBID no that is nothing to what i m about to say and that is i m asking u do u have a vaccum
cleaner ? and if u do show them what happens when everyday u suck up the wrong things and show them what happens, show them that when u keep on putting things in ur systm it tends to wear out and when it wears out it slowly slowly fails on u and tell them this s how our body will react to when we will keep on shoving all that unhealthy food and salt and mirch in us we will start to have alot of health pbs. Has ur FIL ever complained of heart burn or indigestion and if he has then take him to the Dr and sit with him and expain to the DR b4 ur FIL sees him explain to the DR this is their ating habbits and i have tried my darnest to help them but its not working.........let the DR take it from their and if they still r stubborn about it then i would strongly suggest u should drop the issue cause they dont want to understand that u r a wonderful DIL who is so caring and thoughtful f them and maybe just maybe they will realize it .........................just hang in there and must say everything will b ok........................good luck a b strong but if u have kids u should make seperate dishes for them............alright babz c a ltr.............
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My dadi has the same problem with my mum, I mean she lives with us and my mum really respects her, but sometimes she just rubs me up the wrong way.
well firstly she'll never say that the cooking was any good and as I'm learning to cook myself she's always insulting my food too, the other day I made a cup of tea for her and an aunt, she complained that I didnt take the colour out fully and my aunt said 'nah, it's nice' then after drinking half the cup she tells me put some sugar in it, it's too plain- why didnt she ask in the beginning?
Then there's the TV maslah, I mean I dont mind if she's in front of the TV, but come on cant she watch anything other than indian programmes?! it's ridiculous! and it's not the odd one or too she watches from 6pm-10pm on zee and she starts again the next morning!
She had a minor stroke 3 years ago and the doctors tell her to exercise but she doesnt, says she cant. the nurse says she's completely fine but she doesnt belive her, she's been to pakistan to find a desi answer, once every year!
oh, and she loves her daughters and their children, and she phones them 3-4 times a day each. whilst they only come down to see her once a fortnight as they live in the same city. and they say that it's my mum and aunts responsibilty to look after their MIL (meaning my dadi) whilst they themselves dont live with their own MIL, in different cities and countries
I love her to bits but I feel like she'd gotten more and more difficult these days, she wasnt like this before! she's gotten angryer and meaner recently, so strange
You guys think u got it bad? I sympathise with u! but I dont know how my mum and my aunt put up with it! I wonder if I could that much!- I dont think so.
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What abt your dada? is he in the picture?.. maybe hse's like this because of having gotten sick..
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my dada passed away along time ago, I know she's sick but we're tryin to get her better- she just doesnt seem like she wants to- in the beginning we used to take her for walks outside and inside and get her to move around, but she seems to have just stop. I personally blame all these people who are giving her odd ideas like if u mix this with this and eat it or if u go to so and so and he'll get u better!
What is with that stuff? and nowadays she doesnt seem to go outside of the house for weeks on end, she hasnt seen her friends and *****es about them, infact whenever there's a get together everyones always asking about her and she never goes. whenever one of her firends do come down to see her she just ends up turning on the TV and looking really angry. I know she's old and she's not well but I know lots of her friends and other people u have had to go through worse and have overcome it, and another thing is- u only see this sort of thing in pakistani ladies, alot of elderly people of other cultures are continually moving and interacting but with some of our people it's just the whole concept that if I get some desi medicine then I'll get all better
any ways soz if I'm ranting it's just that I want to see her stop this desi medicine chakaar
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"oh, and she loves her daughters and their children, and she phones them 3-4 times a day each. whilst they only come down to see her once a fortnight as they live in the same city. and they say that it's my mum and aunts responsibilty to look after their MIL (meaning my dadi) whilst they themselves dont live with their own MIL, in different cities and countries "
boy that sounds exactly like my dadi!!!!
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"oh, and she loves her daughters and their children, and she phones them 3-4 times a day each. whilst they only come down to see her once a fortnight as they live in the same city. and they say that it's my mum and aunts responsibilty to look after their MIL (meaning my dadi) whilst they themselves dont live with their own MIL, in different cities and countries "
boy that sounds exactly like my dadi!!!!
Thankgod glad I'm not alone!
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My dadi has the same problem with my mum, I mean she lives with us and my mum really respects her, but sometimes she just rubs me up the wrong way.
well firstly she'll never say that the cooking was any good and as I'm learning to cook myself she's always insulting my food too, the other day I made a cup of tea for her and an aunt, she complained that I didnt take the colour out fully and my aunt said 'nah, it's nice' then after drinking half the cup she tells me put some sugar in it, it's too plain- why didnt she ask in the beginning?
Then there's the TV maslah, I mean I dont mind if she's in front of the TV, but come on cant she watch anything other than indian programmes?! it's ridiculous! and it's not the odd one or too she watches from 6pm-10pm on zee and she starts again the next morning!
She had a minor stroke 3 years ago and the doctors tell her to exercise but she doesnt, says she cant. the nurse says she's completely fine but she doesnt belive her, she's been to pakistan to find a desi answer, once every year!
oh, and she loves her daughters and their children, and she phones them 3-4 times a day each. whilst they only come down to see her once a fortnight as they live in the same city. and they say that it's my mum and aunts responsibilty to look after their MIL (meaning my dadi) whilst they themselves dont live with their own MIL, in different cities and countries
I love her to bits but I feel like she'd gotten more and more difficult these days, she wasnt like this before! she's gotten angryer and meaner recently, so strange
You guys think u got it bad? I sympathise with u! but I dont know how my mum and my aunt put up with it! I wonder if I could that much!- I dont think so.
^^^
i no how u feel my grandma is liek that, she is just like never happy she never used to be like that. i think as people get older their habits are more like a childs
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^ Yipee more ppl who can relate to what I'm sayin! Now if only I can get her to be more social then prehaps she wouldnt act like this
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^ Yipee more ppl who can relate to what I'm sayin! Now if only I can get her to be more social then prehaps she wouldnt act like this
u can try as much as u like but ul never convince her, and on the off chance that u do convince her shel still be the same.
am sorry for sounding so negative :( but thats my experience.
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^ lol
why wat happened?
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oh god i am like dying--inlaws are so there all the time 24/7 no privacy--half of my day goes in cooking food for them and then i get busy with the kids--i can't do anythign else--- trying watching TV oh god we can't cuz they have taken over the TV room---and the only way we can watch tv is with them which in short is just geo and dramas---forget ever watching american programs with them even watching indian movies is a pain cuz every movie seems inappropriate---we attempted to watch amitabh tabu movie oh god i was dying had no clue what to do--getting up and leaving, forwarding or just turning none of them are comfortable solutions--- yeah amitabh looking for condoms was not easy to watch with them-- I am dying for freedom which is not anywhere near b/c they keep extending their stay every week--now they mentioned Jan 08 ----going from october 07 to jan--YIKES!!!!
I do believe that in laws want to be near their son which is good but the whole joint family situation is just not possible since even the in laws as a couple would want their privacy i'm sure so I wish there was some way to have a separate tiny house(with kitchen,bedroom, bathroom) attached to their son and his wife's house so the two couples aren't always in each other's faces. The separate kitchen would prevent any kind of friction between daughter in law and MIL. This way they can always see each other once in a while but not so often that it starts becoming a huge problem.
I think I've found the perfect solution to this in law issue!!
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Perfect solution for a fantasy world:halo:…
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awwww…wat happen 
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^ Uff, i can't get into all of it... and dont have enuff posts to PM anyone :(
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just post here na...
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oh wow…i dont know what to say…talk to you husband