My mil has made my life miserable. If i do exactly as she wants she is happy… if god forbid I go out with my friends or do anything that involves me having fun she gets upset. She takes her furstration out by filling my husbands ears… She makes everything seem like my fault… my husband is a big mamas boy… Please help me figure out a way to send them to pakistan… If they go and live in pakistan I will send them $1500 every month so they can have a good life as long as they dont bother me… I am just too nice … I dont want bora for anyone and thats why people take advantage of me… Please Please help…
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god help u girl
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why wud ur husband be mooching off U? he sounds like a mamma's boy AND doesnt seem to hav much sense of masculinity if he's counting on you to support him
:D
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every one has the same story yaar:)
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lol@sam story …
Saas bahu ka yeh problems kab solve hoo gai:chai:
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^
jaab indian dramai khatam hoon gai:chai:
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indian dramay ya phir star plus ka dramaaa :p
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God thought that since he couldn't b everywhere he made a mother. Then devil thought that he couldn't be everywhere he made a mother-in-law.
i hope you get my point now:)
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But why don't these MIL's think that they too were once a daughter in law 9isn't there an indian drama called something like that???!!!) and in some cases, why don't they think that they too have daughters, would they want them to suffer like this too?
This is what I always say to my hubby when his family treat me badly...which is like almost all the time these days!!!!
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lolzzzzzzzzzzzz monster in lawww hahahahaha , i say u become as cheeky as ur monster in laww hahah mke her like u n mke bleev she will b better off in pakistan hs she gt sum other sons dere tell her dey need her too. hahah i knw its evil bt otherwise u will b stuk wid her . good luk
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Agree with Mizzrani - you gotta stand up and get gutsy otherwise you'll be complaining every day and nothing would get done. Your husband won't be helping in this case so don't even count on him since he's a momma's boy. You gotta stand up and take control and stop being nice.
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ignore them both and do what you have to do......as long as you are fulfilling your duty and obligations to the family and not doing anything immoral and/or unethical, you should be fine.
the sooner they figure out that you won't be pressured into a certain behaviour, they will change their tunes.
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I agree with Muzna, just do what you gotta do and thats it! Dont go out of your way to meet their expectations otherwise you will be taken advantage of. Do all your Cooking, cleaning and whatever you need to do and then just get out of the scene!
I have been through this but my situation is not as bad as yours Alhumdullilah. My husband is NOT a mummy’s boy and he understands and supports me and advises me. Sometimes it angers me and I cry but i do my work in the kitchen whatever and resort to my room. I cannot be bothered with their moaning and nagging. Goes through one ear and out the other…
Another thing - dont ask permission to do something, just say mai shopping jah rahi hoo etc. Make the point rather than seeking permission - MAIN THING I HAVE LEARNT! And dont be rude or disrespectful…
Hope everything works out Inshallah!
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Do any of you ever call your mums “monsters”? 
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Good point Sara, and I know we are all given 2 mums (mum and MIL) but sometimes it just gets too much to tolerate.
Unfortunately, this is probably only something that can be felt by those affected by a difficult relationship with their mil’s.
On the other hand it should be a two way thing - mil’s should also respect and treat dil and sil well
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god i hate MIL i dont understand why they have no LIVES! there should be a camp where they go so they butt out of peoples lives...mine lives in pK and i cant be more thankful if she were here id shoot her. keep doing what ur doing and tell her flat out to stop being a tattle tale or to move the hell out tell her u are frustrated and and not feeling healthy w. her telling u what to do tell her to butt out and concentrate on her other kids and her husband. i hate mammas boys!!!! god how do they get brainwashed like that? somoene please tell me???? i do NOT get it.
how do u get ur mammas boy to stop being one?
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ohhh and PS stop being so worried about being nice...ur gonna get unhealthy from stress and she will be perfectly fine. being nice gets ur NOWHERE FAST. dont do it. just be fair and strong.
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well said!! ^
I usually give the same advice to anyone in this situation…
Just keep quiet and act like you are listening…let them say what they want…take in the part you agree with and let the rest go out the other ear. In the end…do what you want and what’s best for your family.
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I see a lot of this on Zee TV.
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and PTV and ARY and oh wait ... let your MIL make an account on gupshup and let us hear her side of the story.