I hate money. I hate not having money and I hate having money. I hate to buy things with money. I hate to feel dependent on money. I don’t want to be attached to it, ruled by it, controlled by it or miss it when it’s not there.
The only thing I like about money is that it offers opportunities like the ability to travel, to raise and educate our kids, to help other people. I never want to have a hunger for money. Things have always been given to me without my asking. I’ve never known need and I’ve never known the hunger for money. When I feel like I have material things that I don’t need I give them away. I never want to have extra or abundance of anything. I never want to feel ruled by material things. So what’s wrong with me?
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Sis, I think you are not any oridinary woman.Actually, I have heard a saying and quite believe in it, the sayings are:"If you want to test a man, test him with another woman, and if you want to test a woman, test her with another man having lots of money".I think thats the rule of thumb for oridinary men and women.And the critics for you people, my family women those are my mom and sis are not materialistic, so they are not in the oridinary category :p
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Saima,
just be thanful to Allah swt for what you have, do not worry excessively about money. money does make the world go around but we must not overate it. If Allah swt has given you so much, it may mean that you are capeable of handling that amount. I know quite few muslim women whose husbands are making tons of $$$ and yet they live such a simple lifestyle. they have big houses, cars, kids go to prestige universities but whenever there is a need in community for funds, these families are usually the first ones to help... so i have firm believe in Allah gives the money, power to its people who knows how to handle it.
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Good. You've got the right attitude. You treat money as merely the means, not the end. As they say, the fewer needs you have the richer you are.
However, having lots of money is good. Being a millionaire is good. Being a billionaire is even better. Owning the Earth would be just awesome!
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Saima get yourself a job- That will solve all the problems. Give credit cards back to your dad and open up a checking account.
One step at a time.
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Nia, I'm a married mother of two kids and I've worked since I was 14 years old. My dad does not give me anything. We live a very simple life on a modest income. Maybe I made myself sound like a spoiled brat with too much stuff. My problem is different. I don't want any stuff. I don't place value on things, what little I have.
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saima - we all love shoes... lets go shopping and you can pay my check as well how is that? ;)
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Nia if you're a size 6 I can give you a few pairs of unworn shoes sitting in my closet. I'd rather declutter my life than bring more stuff into it.
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hey i’m size 6 
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Well Browneyedbeauty, I was considering posting them on ebay, but they should really go to a good Muslim home.
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saima aww you are so tiny - I am Big Foot girl :D. i wear 7.5 and i need wide ones this way there is a nice space for my cute bunions. [oh hush i know they look horrible but to me the are cute]
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siama, why do you think there is something wrong with you?
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Ahmadjee, before I got married my father came to me and asked me why I never ask him for anything. He was concerned that I never want anything. Then when I got married my fil asked me the same question. With my father it was more of a personal concern. With my fil it was like a test of some sort. He's very religious and I believe that he wanted an insight into my character. But for me at that time, I felt somewhat abnormal. After marriage my mil was giving me many things. All I could do was say thank you and I never really touched any of it. Ofcourse I appreciate what she does for me. But when she gives me a speach about how I MUST have a good handbag and a good shoe and I'm standing there in my Converse sneakers, I could care less.
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Parents need to assure themselves that they are still needed, while parents-in-law are always trying to make their sons & daughter-in-laws closer to what they deem perfect.
It is said that the best thing you can do to a gift is to use it but I know sometimes it’s hard. I was given a very slick shalwar kameez by my mil, but the last time I ever wore a shalwar kameez was at my wedding, so it’s still hanging in the closet. I think she will really appreciate it if I wear it the next time she comes around for a visit. I will probably look stupid but if it brings a smile, it’s worth me killing my ego. Same can be said to the expensive watch I was given at my wedding, while it’s very nice I like my 20 dollar Casio better. I often try to justify myself that I don’t need to become what my wife, parents or others want me to be and if I do something that they want and I don’t, I will be giving in my individuality but sometimes I think that it will really take a confident & controlled person to give up his preference for others and not sulk over it and stand by things that really matter in principle & belief.
Still, there is nothing wrong with you.
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Ok thn give me all ur money ,
Because i would to have alot of money ,
may eb not alot , but money ,
Wht u think ,
do let me know for more info Saima
OK OK hahahaahaha ..don t laugh
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But i really love all these products , which u haev mentioned
MONEY < LOVE < RELATIONSHIP ,
I really love becasue thm becasue I am really yound ,
Would to go for thm on long term ,
And I eally mean tht wht iam saying .
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hehe i was just kidding sis 
…u should put it on ebay..what’s your id there?
i actually have a cousin who is like that..she never and i mean NEVER asks for anything from her parents, and siblings… her parents MAKE her ACCEPT money or whatever…
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That’s very true. My inlaws are such totally opposite personalities (to eachother) that it’s often a tug of war trying to please them. They never had a daughter so they had high expectations of me. I agree that giving up some ego and individuality is necessary. Ofcourse a mil wants to teach or mold her dil in some sense and I submitted to that period. I allowed her to live out her fun, to see me dressed up and take me to parties. Unfortunately, in her circle of friends, they all have a critical eye. And they talk about eachother. They all want to outdo one another.
It’s not that carrying a nice handbag will hurt me. I don’t want to place value on that handbag. Inshallah we will soon be doing better financially and you know the expression, “You become what you fear.”? I don’t want that to happen.
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Saima i am serious ,
Why don t u shop for me ,
i just need LAPTOP PC ,
Saima sunteeeeeeeeeeeee plz help mee naaaa,
So tht i should be clear , tht there soem good people here who just
DOn t say things but they ACTUALLY mean it ,
Sponser me and prove tht. If u really mean all tht u said above
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sorry for mistakenly written ,
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