i think this suits desis quite a bit… when it comes to gift giving i mean
desis have a hard time finding gifts as it is, so they’d rather just hand the money forcefully into the giftee’s hand (not that the giftee minds)
I personally dont like giving money as a gift.. this means i have to give some substantial amount that wont look as if im cheap… so id rather just get a nice gift that i can afford..
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I am all for gift giving but then i know how picky i personally am. And i would hate to recieve something that i dont use and just sits there in boxes. So usually when we give presents (eg on birthdays etc) we attach the gift reciepts as well so they can exchange for something else if they arent too fond of what we got or have duplicates.
For weddings etc, i realise how new couples can utilise the money, instead of 5 different kinds of toasters or tea sets. We have no problem giving them cash so they can use it towards something they need. BUt then again, we are only invited to weddings or told about them (if they arent held in the US) when we are close to the people involved and giving out atleast a 100 is given.
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^ yeah apparently a $100 is a given here too.. unless some of the aunties get together and have a conference about "kithne paise dene chahiye" then the limit is either raised or reduced.... so pettttyyyy
i refuse... i give what i can..
ooh attaching receipts is a good idea.
do people use gift registeries there for their weddings? I think thats a pretty good idea, lekin can be bad for a person who didnt get to the registry quick enough and ends up having to buy something out of their budget... that happened to me!
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^ when my sister got married, people who were late to get to the registry and could not afford the items left, simply gifted her a gift card (for whatever amount they could afford) for the store where she was registered... this way, she ended up getting multiple gift cards and bought the expensive things that were left in the registry...
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thats a great idea.
I got married in pak.. so yeah... it was quite a different story
but yeah when we had bubz, hubby wished people would just give money so that we could get stuff that we needed.. makes sense... but most of the people (family members) just baught the stuff that we wanted to get.. so that was nice
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i only give cash at weddings.
gift cards for ppl i dont know so well.
gifts to ppl i do know and attatch gift receipts.
im very picky with what i buy and i use the same mentality when picking something out for someone i know... i go for what their personality is like, their hobbies, what kinda things they like to wear. etc... put some thought into it. :)
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I think it's better to give money to those you don't know well and gifts to those you are close to.it's easy to chose gifts for people you know:)
I believe,money giving is extremely common at weddings..but,otherwise,i don't think it's a good idea to give money as gift.it appears quite impersonal.it shows you put no thought into the gift..and also,the memory of a gift or the gift itself will last a lifetime. How long will the money last?
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When it comes to a wedding gift, I personally think money is better as thecouple can utilise it just as it may suit them, instead of utilising goods you bring them as a gift, and which they already have and may not really need. Gifts have their emotional attachments, but comeon,we need to grow up and think in practical terms.
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I actually got a giftcard AND cash for my birthday this year (by two diff friends) well i ended up using the cash for that same friend's bday gift and the b-day outing as well as using that giftcard to get the other friend a b-day gift. so they basically bought their own gifts..in a way/.. :D