Quick backstory; I read a book called The Happiness Project, really loved it signed up for the authors daily emails about tips on how to improve life and general well being / mental state and gain a fresh perspective.
Today’s Moment of Happiness email was actually pretty different and I thought it was thought provoking:
“Associate with people who are likely to improve you.”
-Seneca
What do you guys think?
How many of your colleges and friends improve you?
and how many of them are just baggage?
Ever do such a self analysis
@X2 - thats an interesting thought. Come to think of it I can narrow down my daily circle to exactly 5 people.
@smartoo - I dont think thats the question here. I think the point here is to evaluate the people that YOU ALREADY DO hang out with; not those that you want to associate with.
Very true, I 100% agree with this. The first thing they ask you to do in those seminars is "dump all your loser friends no matter how close they are", that is if you want to be successful in life...
Very true, I 100% agree with this. The first thing they ask you to do in those seminars is "dump all your loser friends no matter how close they are", that is if you want to be successful in life...
Author means, one should accompany with sincere people who criticize you for positive improvements in you. I agree with author human nature can be improved iff one is ready to accept positives from sincere friends.
But question is how many of us are willing to bear criticism?
True... i mean isnt there a saying of sorts that goes like You are what your friends are? or was it made up by my mum ? :| Whatever the case is, the people you move around with and tend to spend more time with are the ones that influence you , you are always judged by the company you keep.
didnt work for my brother- his circle of friends all got triple A at alevels and are doing law/ medicine etc at uni. my brother - couldnt be "arsed" going uni.
self help books and self help speakers.
Are for people who got flat tire. A person rather put air in and carry weight of other people if he/she has to.
Remember "ooper wala hath nechy waly hath sy behter hy"
I know the 4 people that have a desire to improve me. My sister, my parents and my husband. I dont' know about anyone else. Nor do I have that expectation out of anyone else.
However I wouldn't discount all the others in my life. I learn (improve) through their situations, their advice. There is not enough credit given to the opposite.
You see someone and you say to yourself - "I don't want to be that in 10 years!" and changing yourself for the better.
njgal has touched upon the point that I wanted to make......you can learn from good and from bad.
I guess advice like this depends on where you are to begin with in terms of mental/emotional quotient.
I do not get along with perfectionist, know it all sort of people. I associate with peopke I can relate to and I think improvement doesnt come from finding best ppk to hang out with! It comes rrom moulding yourself into a person who others can relate to and only way to do that is to suffer failure and imperfection.
People who are likely to improve you are not necessarily perfect themselves. It's just that there's something in your relationship/interactions that is inspirational and positive.
my parents taught me you are a reflection of the company you keep - isn't it a hadith or something as well? to associate with good people as that's a reflection of you or something... someone find out...
