Okay I just wanted to vent a little. My son spends a lot of time with me after school..and guess what school is only for 2 and a half hours. I always tell myself that we will do all these things today, recreational or educational. But it hardly happens that way.
One thing or another comes up. The house isnt clean and I feel guilty for leaving it that way. The laundry isnt done. I feel tired. Im afraid my son will be too roudy at the library. Does anyone ever feel this way. I feel like Im not doing enough for my kid mental development. AAAAHHHH!!
Oh and he is always watching t.v.!!DISNEY CHANNEL There I admit it. Isnt that terrible. I need to break this cycle. Please if anyone has any suggestions or comments please share.
i dont think theres anything wrong with watching disney channel.. isnt that a bit educatoinal neways? like Dora and some other cartoons im yet not aware of..
why dont u get him some educational game that'll keep him occupied? that'll give u enuff time to do all the house chores as well and he'll be entertained..?
nope DORA cartoons come on PBS and on Nickoldean(dont know the exact name)well he has such a craze of the cartoons that he dont allow his parents to watch the TV .plus now he has develop a new habbit that he wakes up early and sneak out from his room and turn on TV while we are asleep…do just tell me how can a decrease his cartoon phobia…
furqan he had a elmo dall ..but he is fedup from him too..if u need it i can gave u his:)
u can get these educational video games... and u plug the small sega/nitendo type device into your tv and the kids can play all sorts of educational games... maybe thats a good investment?
Sheen baji beside all the mental education, please don't forget to teach him some islamic stuff,,,, or atleast occasionally mention or talk about your culture and religion.. Since i noticed tat most of the parents think tat their kids will learn it themselves or they are too young but it is never too early or too late.. So please focus on that as well since this is the time for a child to learn from their environment.....
^I agree. Restrict the TV now before it becomes a bad habit. How about letting him help you out with some of your chores - for him it's quality time with you. Also, can you possibly try to get most of the housework done while he's away at preschool?
Set aside one day of the week when the two of you will go to the library after school. If he doesn't behave, just leave without getting any books - it took my son two trips to get the hint.
A four year old can fold towels or washcloths, match socks, put clothes (already sorted) into the washer, toss a salad with a spoon, dust with a swiffer, pull up the covers and "make" their bed, etc. They think it's fun, and they get to spend quality time with mom. (Goodness, reading this, I sound like a slave driver)
And don't neglect the Islamic studies. It's pretty easy to teach a young child short surahs by getting them to repeat after you - they are little sponges at that age.
One thing or another comes up. The house isnt clean and I feel guilty for leaving it that way. The laundry isnt done. I feel tired. Im afraid my son will be too roudy at the library. Does anyone ever feel this way. I feel like Im not doing enough for my kid mental development. AAAAHHHH!!
Oh and he is always watching t.v.!!DISNEY CHANNEL There I admit it. Isnt that terrible. I need to break this cycle. Please if anyone has any suggestions or comments please share.
I feel this too :(running after home cooking and cleaning and running errands.But one day my friend adviced me and i tried to change myself and doing 5% better than before.If u want advice i can give u :) first give me approval.HOw many kids do u have?
Since my girls were 4 and 3 we got them interested in inline and ice skating, cycling, swimming and other such stuff. It helps that cycling and swimming were taught in their school itself so they were spending 2-3 hours after school in school.
Also as Fraudia said TV has to be restricted. Our allocated time is 1 hour per day and on weekend a movie. It will be a lot easier to break the habbit now then latter.
Sheen, I read your post today after having such a bad evening yesterday. My eldest came home crying...some sort of fight with her friend at school, plus they were punished with extra hwk and she had a terrific headache. So I had to comfort her, massage her head as well as help with her hwk...at the same time my baby wanted me to hold her and play peek a boo and only wanted her sister's school books and ruler....and I just had to bite my tongue not to cry out!
Of course any housework in the evening was kept to bare minimum and I was even willing to forego baby's bath cos my eldest was in a state. But luckily I managed it.
You need to not feel guilty about housework...spend quality time with your son...soon he will not need you. Go out with a bike, ball, balloon whatever...make him physically tired. Esp boys have so much energy.limit tv..rather encourage reading and painting. If you need to take him to library...prepare him for it. Make a play library at home and show him what to expect and how people behave. Make it a fun thing for him to be quiet. A secret sign between you and him means no noise. It will be fun for him.
Enjoy your little one...soon he will be so independent and ashamed that "his mom" is playing with him...as all kids will eventually do.
One thing or another comes up. The house isnt clean and I feel guilty for leaving it that way. The laundry isnt done. I feel tired. Im afraid my son will be too roudy at the library. Does anyone ever feel this way. I feel like Im not doing enough for my kid mental development. AAAAHHHH!!
Oh and he is always watching t.v.!!DISNEY CHANNEL There I admit it. Isnt that terrible. I need to break this cycle. Please if anyone has any suggestions or comments please share.
If the things that you plan for the day are not happening then , THERE IS SOMETHING that u need to do or change.
It appears that you feel you are not spending quality time with ur kid and at same time, house is being neglected too, the perhaps u need to do something about time management.
I don't think DORA or similar stuff will really help. More important is for you to be involved in educational things with him.
Ms Sheen, you have my sincerest sympathy and understanding! lol, I had 3 in a row, one right after the other. And its so very hard, no - its impossible - to keep house nicely, do laundry and marketing in a timely fashion whilst spending quality, educational time with littles. Once they start going to school, things get easier bit by bit. I now have 2 hours each day to myself, I can have a lovely shower or go marketing in my flash-fast fashion without toting the 3 of them along! In the meantime, you just have to take a deep breath and accept that the more time you spend with your little, the less time you have to sparkle up your house. I tried to make routine household tasks interesting and fun for mine to help and participate in, thats always a good thing to do. But really, be more forgiving to yourself for now. Things will get so much better once the little one goes to school and you have more time to yourself.
It appears that you feel you are not spending quality time with ur kid and at same time, house is being neglected too, the perhaps u need to do something about time management.
Sorry - I often agree with your posts but this is such a MAN thing to say. In the US we typically have NO domestic or family help at all, and when you have small children in the house there are hundreds of things that have to be done, then re-done throughout the day. When my children were small there were things in the house that didn't always get done, and nothing was worse than my husband coming home and saying "what did you do all day?"
arent u 2 oldd 4 that kinda stuff…:halo:
4 and a half years old:love:
while we are asleep…do just tell me how can a decrease his cartoon phobia…
