Re: Mom in law vs husband
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Re: Mom in law vs husband
OKay anam man this is what I would do if I was you .... tell your mother in law that your husband has been asking you to wear it for some xyz event that you're going to and has been asking about jewellery and you know that she (your mil) doesn't have the money for it now but you have some amount saved up from before and you can lend that to your MIL and she can pay you back whenever instead of jewellery going outside the house and you're so dumb for not thinking of it before and she should just tell you what the amount is that she needs .... then once you know how much she needs go talk to your husband and tlel him that you need the money and for xyz reason and she can't talk to your MIL because at least now she confides in you and you can keep you eye and tabs on her and if she tells her then she'll still do it but get the money and stuff from someone else and what is he going to do then ... so its better to keep it from her and u'll just help her out this way
no need for an elaborate scheme. tell your mil that you need to tell your husband and then tell him. you seem very soft hearted and innocent, just tell the truth and let them deal with it. nice people never get away with being sneaky
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You have bigger issues in your family than 8-9 tolas of gold. Mother&sister lying to their son about their financial issues! Something is fishy.
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^THIS!!
Even I think..certainly there is something fishy..!!
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You have bigger issues in your family than 8-9 tolas of gold. Mother&sister lying to their son about their financial issues! Something is fishy.
Thats what I was thinking as well. Every 2 people seem to be sharing a secret that the rest of the house doesnt know.
And who takes gold as rehen in Pakistan, other than the mafia? I say your MIL is in over her head, since she seems to be covering loans with loans with loans. Talk to your husband and get it over with. Your MIL needs help.
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well it's getting common in Pakistani society that many people are involved in some PEERI FAKEERI type of thingi and for this, they usually steal/demand the jewelry from their own family members and give it to their PEER BABAS.Unfortunately, Peeri fakeeri is a very successful business as people believe that these PEERS can solve all their problems. I am afraid if your mother is having the same issue i mean what's making her suspicious is that she is hiding this matter from her son.
Like others, I would also suggest you to talk to your MIL and then hubby otherwise you can get into a huge trouble in future. Don't put your trust at risk.
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Thanks for all your support guys, you all are awesome..
You know just today I spoke to her regarding that. She just went hay wire. She was like, Why on earth did i take from u. why did god put me in such situation and all.. The amount of help i have recieved is much less than the stress i am going through and all that melodrama.... tht too infront of a servant.
I also told her... that have i ever asked her before??? and its not just about ONE set. i am just saying because i am answerable to everyone.
i was so hurt that i have been lying to everyone just to help her and here is one person who is behaving as if she z doing me a favour.
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She actually pleaded me to help me. not just requested. I cried that whole day thinking what she might be going through. why she is in such a state that she had to plead to her DIL. She was so diff that day... Very emotional and vulnerable. She told me all about her losses and her previous lifestyle. I was so moved by her plight.
And its not like she has been the bEST mil ever. We do have our fair shares of differences, She finds faults with everything I do. Bosses me, criticises me on JUST everything...
But thats just abt the two of us. I just take a chill pill. She too forgets in the next second.
I once asked her why she needed so much money I mean her debt is around 2 lakhs. She said ghar kharch mein spend ho jate, I was like she has sons who earn and send her money all the time.. i wasnt just satisfied with the answer. She lies a lot yeh to hai
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Your MIL has a history of financial imprudence where her decisions regarding money harmed not just her but the rest of the family. By you giving her money or jewellery, you're letting her get back into the same cycle of money mismanagement.
We all understand that your intentions were good, but the consequences of enabling her behaviour can't be good. Tell your husband right away and let him and your FIL deal with the consequences. This affects not just your MIL, but your entire sasuraal.
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Tell your husband about it, ask him to not make it a issue and be around when he plan to talk this out with his mom. You do not want to be in another he-said, she-said situation. Do not talk to him as if you are complaining but with the intentions that this can make him help his mom.
Your intentions were right, I guess even your MIL's intentions were not wrong but she must be going through some financial crises (read money mismanagement) which becomes obvious when she had to take new loan to pay off old. She need help and she need it soon.
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Thanks for all your support guys, you all are awesome.. You know just today I spoke to her regarding that. She just went hay wire. She was like, Why on earth did i take from u. why did god put me in such situation and all.. The amount of help i have recieved is much less than the stress i am going through and all that melodrama.... tht too infront of a servant. I also told her... that have i ever asked her before??? and its not just about ONE set. i am just saying because i am answerable to everyone. i was so hurt that i have been lying to everyone just to help her and here is one person who is behaving as if she z doing me a favour.
Dnt fall into the guilt trap. Just tell your husband. You dnt need to justify yourself to her and this affect your marriage, I guess it already has.
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TELL YOUR HUSBAND! Keeping such big things hidden from your spouse is never a good idea.
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And to think that one of the confidants is a servant! Your MIL can trust her servant, but not her husband or son.
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I guess your feeling about your MIL has changed drastically from your first post yesterday to this one from today. 
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Sounds like she has some sort of addiction?
Please be careful, you mentioned she's a liar and that she is desperately trying to hide this from your husband. You never know.... in a bid to save herself from being shamed and exposed she could very well accuse YOU of lying and do a drama questioning where and to whom you've been giving all your gold. She sounds like a chalaak woman.
I suggest you tell your husband the whole thing. And I know this sounds crazy, but trust me, I speak from experience.... you should be smart and have a conversation with your MIL about you helping her and needing the gold back now.... and record the whole thing. Because there is no witness in this whole thing. Its a he-said she-said story. You think her servant would side with you even if you said he's in on it? Your MIL is his source of bread and butter, his loyalties are to HER. Protect yourself. This has potential of getting really ugly.
Mom in law vs husband
This seems really dodgy. The MIL doesn't seem genuine. Reminds me of a guy who loaned his brother some money, and went he went to ask for it back, the brother went crazy on him saying how dare you, when i spent so much on your wedding etc. he tried turning it back on him by making him feel guilty.. But it didn't really work. I think something similar is going on here.
Dont feel guilty, that is what she wants. It might be she doesnt have any debts and she is using your kindness to her advantage and then making you feel guilty for bringing it up.
You need to tell someone otherwise this will carry on and when it blows up you will find it difficult to plead your innocence when you knew along.
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Moral of the story. MILs are plain evil. 
Except for the husbands’. 
O and not to forget, DILs are all saints, by default. :halo: 
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You just simply need to talk to your husband. If she is freaking out about it, to bad for her, god knows where that money has gone and who is involved. You could potentially be putting the entire family at harm, you should do everyone a favor and tell your husband. Its his mother, he should be dealing with this and I dont think I need to repeat like others have here, if the son and dad don't know, then theres something very fishy going on and you probablly have already been dragged into it more than you know. As much as that jewllery was lost to help you mother in law, dont you think it would hurt your family just the same to know its gone... these things hold a lot of sentimental value as well i can imagine. just please tell your husband. like rightnow..
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Guys Guys Guys! I was at my mom’s place for the past few days, so couldnt really keep a track here. Back Today! Like a guppie said I have recorded a video of my MIL confessing taking my jewellery and asking me to cover up for some more days.. Giving me shaitani ideas to lie more to my hubby and parents. The amount of money she got on each of them. How much she has to pay..
Didnt feel very good after doing it. But I need my defence too.. Will be used only if she back stabs me!!!
Gonna talk to my hubby tonight.. It just seems a very long night. Cold feet, heavy heart beat, STRESSED 
Please keep me in your prayers.. Esp my Married life!