Re: moher in law issue. this time i confronted her. yayy for me.
What’s your point with this? It’s pretty obvious that the reason MIL didn’t visit you is b/c she doesn’t like you and is not too concerned about your comfort. She made that clear from day 1. By locking your own bedroom you proved that you never believed her excuse & thought there is a strong possibility she will come upstairs. So once again……if you locked your own room b/c you wanted her to stay out….why did you not lock the children’s room? What made you think she would not go through their room?
Who said its acceptable? Of course its not acceptable. My point is that at the end of the day, its HER house. She can go in whatever room she wants to and arrange anything however she wants to. Its common sense that she should ideally stay out of your room/kids room out of respect. However, she has made it clear to you in the last 4 YEARS that she does not respect you. If you moved into a house knowing that the owner doesn’t respect you, and the owner has shown repeatedly over the years that she will not change her attitude/behavior towards you…..then its up to you to decide if you want to continue staying in that house and be treated liked his.
Your husband already knows how you feel about living there/his mother. He has already made it clear to you that she’s not leaving his mother. I assume you weren’t able to convince him to move to UK & that’s why you returned. Over the years, you have been given countless amounts of advice on controlling your own emotions, picking & choosing your battles, and random tips on trying to keep peace in the house. You have ignored them all and NOTHING is different today compared to 4 years ago. You don’t want to modify your own behavior but expect your MIL to change……and she’ just as stubborn. Your husband has made up his mind that he’s not moving out. So you tell us what else is there left to do?