I dont like them. Why can’t desi people have segregated weddings..
u have to move over to arabia....
we do in our culture,
back in pakistan, the women party at home and the men at the hujra. over here in the u.k. two separate halls are booked for the men and the women.
the nikah and the walimah are the only things men attend, even that just to congratulate the groom and eat free food. all the rasms like mehndi etc. are strictly women only, no men in colourful duapattas and sherwanis there.
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*Originally posted by armughal: *
u have to move over to arabia....
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you're kidding, right?
pk taz, thats just like what we do in our culture..
but it doesnt happen vastly among desis..
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*Originally posted by ravage: *
you're kidding, right?
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i've never in my 26 years of living in arabia attended a mixed wedding....
nor have i heard of any wedding that was a mixed one....
except my pakistani friend's wedding, which was a small party (the real thing was in pakistan) in which only close friends/family were invited....
so guess i aint kidding....
what made u think i was????
Mehndi and dholkis should be limited to females only.
I don't really mind a joint hall for the nikah and walima. That way families can sit with one another and enjoy the event together.
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*Originally posted by MyStiCaL_MisS: *
I dont like them. Why can't desi people have segregated weddings..
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You´re generalizing here. I have seen all sorts of desi weddings from functions in strictly seperated halls to Mehndis with girls and boys dancing together.
So I guess, it´s just a matter of how the families of the bride and the groom want to have it.
ALmost all the pukhtoon weddings I have been to, both in the UK and in Pak have been segregated. But I know of many that have been mixed too, so I guess as Umer says it depends on the families of the bride and groom.
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*Originally posted by armughal: *
u have to move over to arabia....
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Bro,you are talking about the middle-east, i suppose???
In Oman, I know omani weddings were segregated but I went to an Egyptian wedding whic was mixed and women were wearing kinda revealing outfits. So I am assuming, in some parts of "Arabia" and even in some parts of Egypt, they have mixed weddings :)
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*Originally posted by MyStiCaL_MisS: *
I dont like them. Why can't desi people have segregated weddings..
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Why not? Why do mixed weddings bother you so much?
I've been to both types of weddings. As has been noted above, plenty of desis have segregated weddings.
I can see the value for mehndi type functions. But I have two brothers and no sisters, and I wouldn't want my brothers or my father to miss out on these occasions.
I have attended only 3 weddings in my life 
2 in a pind (in our family) so it was segregated, women in one house men in another.
I like segregation during weddings :k:
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*Originally posted by armughal: *
i've never in my 26 years of living in arabia attended a mixed wedding....
nor have i heard of any wedding that was a mixed one....
except my pakistani friend's wedding, which was a small party (the real thing was in pakistan) in which only close friends/family were invited....
so guess i aint kidding....
what made u think i was????
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I've attended two unsegregated wedding functions in oman. (thats the total i've attended). a vast majority of arabs do not live in saudi arabia.
not really true.. i live in saudi arabia and recently attended a yemeni-saudi wedding and it was mixed.. i think it depends on the families holding the wedding...and almost all the paki weddings ive attended in saudi arabia are mixed
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*Originally posted by armughal: *
i've never in my 26 years of living in arabia attended a mixed wedding....
nor have i heard of any wedding that was a mixed one....
except my pakistani friend's wedding, which was a small party (the real thing was in pakistan) in which only close friends/family were invited....
so guess i aint kidding....
what made u think i was????
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*Originally posted by pk taz: *
we do in our culture,
back in pakistan, the women party at home and the men at the hujra. over here in the u.k. two separate halls are booked for the men and the women.
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Depends on the background of the community as well. Mirpuri weddings are segregated but ours aren't although you do generally get women sitting on seperate tables to men. Why's it such a big deal?
I guess I have mixed feelings about mixed weddings. if it entails dancing, then i feel segregation is called for. if it merely involves sitting around watching the stage, then i dont see why its different from eating out in a restaurant or going to an office party (which are usually mixed).
that said, we usually have a partitioning with tables at our weddings.
Some of you said it's on the cultural backgrounds, i agree.. and also yeah it depends on the families. But we have had mixed and segregated weddiings in our family, and i liked the latter better..
Coz your free to wear those beautiful clothes, which are next to nothing, good for hijabis,and dance freely, not worrying too much about make up smudging, smoking, all those dirty jokes women pass only in the company of women... it's soo much better.. (apart from those gossipy aunties who are always there to ruin ur night)..
While men can dance and enjoy themselves likewise..which some do...
I think theyre more islamic(apart from the music and other things),
and more enjoyable.
Desi women tell dirty jokes at weddings? 
Desi women SMOKE?!
rrrRRrRrrr
I think its better if weddings are segragated, especially if women are gonna be dancing or whatever else goes on.
I remember one wedding(mendhi) of a close relative, the women were in the main hall, and the few men were in a small side room.
But guess what, the Sihk DJ and his crew were on a stage in the womens hall. 
So it was alright for them to ogle at all the pakistani women dressed up in their best clothes dancing around, but for the male relatives to be there would have been shameful.
I thought the whole thing was dumb, either u should segregate properly or not bother at all.
likewise for the camera crew.