i think that segregated weddings are more fun in general... you can be yourself and don't feel odd because the opposite sex is marvelling at your assets or (the other extreme) dissing your 'dogs dinner' appearance. also, you don't have to restrict yourself as to what you can and cannot do... i've been to loads of mixed weddings and ever danced, eaten the food, got bored watching and come home and been to one where it was segregated, danced the night away and loved it even though the food wasn't all too great. it makes all the difference and can have a huge impact on the whole atmosphere of the ceremony. also, mehndi functions for ladies only is practice of the wives of the propther (saw) and waleema is sunnah too!
I don't agree with most of you.
I prefer mixed weddings, because to me weddings are a family affair and if I can't sit with my dad or my brothers then what's the point?
Also when I get married I'd like it to be mixed as I have three brothers and no sisters and would like my brothers to be at my mehndi, wedding and walima.
If people don't like that then they have the option to wear hijaab or not atend.
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If people don't like that then they have the option to wear hijaab or not atend.
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You go girl!
whome- time to wakeup :p
M- i agree with you, if it's segregated, it should be that way all the way..
hafsa_dudette- :) exactly my thoughts!!
farhana- But isnt it meant to be for women, mehndi and stuff.. ofcourse family should be there,, but they can be there at the nikah.. just my thoughts..
Arvind :)
I don'tknow man...I like our culture where men and women can enjoy the festivities, dance together, laugh together revel in the enjoyment of the day. Young girls and guys checking each other out. Uncles drinking scotch and aunties sneaking in some wine.
The bhangra, the music,...man I want to go to an Indian wedding....been a while. :(
I like mixed weddings but I’d feel a bit uncomfortable letting my own women go, myself I’ve been a few times and its good fun. ;)
Masui indian weddings do look like a lota fun, like 'monsoon wedding' :p
Ashti,, why not let your women go? and you enjoy all the fun huh.. see thats why i say weddings shud be segregated!
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Ashti,, why not let your women go? and you enjoy all the fun huh.. see thats why i say weddings shud be segregated!
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Why do you think? We Desi guys are the biggest perverts ever, the only reason I went was to check out the apni chicks, same with all my buddies. :D
In our culture we don’t usually have mixed weddings, actually if someone invites us to a wedding we always find out if its mixed and if they are recording a video, if the answer is yes to either question then no female goes, its not only our family everyone in our town is like that except two three families from Karachi and Lahore.
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farhana- But isnt it meant to be for women, mehndi and stuff.. ofcourse family should be there,, but they can be there at the nikah.. just my thoughts..
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I see the benefits of having the segregated wedding in that women don't have to worry as much and can just enjoy themselves and dance and whatever. But when you have only brothers and they are like your best friends, you want to share the occasion with them.
At least I do.
Some times they annoy me.. coz i hate when ppl questions other culture.. and mock it. like pathan and Gujrati... u cant match them.. both are different.. and specially when ppl married a person who just cant fit in ur culture and den.. its so stupid..
^ DC, I think she's talking about having both genders present.
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^ DC, I think she's talking about having both genders present.
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I still dont get it..
^Wedding ceremony and mehndi and stuff that has both men and women mixed (rather than segregated)
mixed wedding? what is that? more than 1 wedding at the same time in teh same wedding hall?
^ no its like a wedding without segregation.. so males and females can mingle with one another
thanks sadzzz. And I am all for the mixed weddings. Love it when all the honies in their exquisite dresses and not so exquisite make-up keep checking me out from top to bottom. It's usually after the weddings that my phone is the busiest.