Missing Someone..

[amir_pindi]

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i understand that on her side. ofcourse that is the logical thing to do.

but im too attached to her. i just miss her and she shud have not made promises to be beforehand.
Im the type of person who honours thier promises. If i had made someone a promsise i honour it till death. I would tell my wife upfront about my past.
If she has the courage to get married then she shud have the courage to deal with her husband. she dont have to tell him about me.
i mean she a working class lady all independant and that she has other male friends.

And i helped her in so many things.

she does not seem to care at all about me.

kaise muje mil tum mil gai

[ManoRani]

Maybe she cares so much that it would hurt her to still have to see you and talk to you? and still see the pain and hurt in your eyes and voice each day.

I know its so hard to accept, but everything does happen for a reason. There is some wisdom in this otherwise it wouldn't have happened. We are only humans, that is why we don't understand. Maybe many years down the line you will look back on it and understand. This sounds like a fresh wound of the heart, dont worry, time heals all, even when you dont want to be healed.

[Pakilarka]

Hi Guys

I just want to ask if you miss somebody. If you used to talk to them for 2 years every single day. You didnt say anything wrong to them. All the sudden they stop talking to you and stop taking your calls/msges and it stays that way for over a year.

How would you feel?

It looks like they dont care about you anymore and want to forget you. And say you have tried your best but you just cant help missing them and you cant forget them.** You cant understand why all the sudden they treat you like they never knew you.** Say you think of them everyday, where they are now, what they do, who they are with.

What to do?

All replies Appreciated bros and sisters.

She got married... what cud be a butter excuse to stop talkin to u all in sudden ?

if this is the case and she is not callin u coz she is married, THEN i salute her and i wud recommned u not to miss someonez wife.

[Reha]

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You were with her for 2 years...who said you will ever forget her in two months? No, it will take you a while to heal...until then dont jump into any relationships as I know you're not mentally ready for them.

Please just get busy with other things in your life and this too shall pass.

[haania06]

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Try to find a good girl n get married, u'll really forget the past, I have seen same kind of situation with my best friend , they used to talk to each other for 8 years daily, they were best friends but in the end both marry to someone else hav kids and are happy, They still do miss each other but its like once in blue moon.

[NaMaan]

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Yaar Saatuu piyaa kerr … will keep you all cool and calm :k:

[Enya]

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As so many of them have already said,"forget and move on" I wouldn't say so. Just think logically for a moment, how can you literally ever forget someone. We still remember incidence from our childhood and then how can we possibly forget someone,especially the one we had our most sincere feelings attached to. Amir Jee, don't put your mind towards forgetting the past, cuz you just simply can't. There will always be times when you will miss her ALOT, taht is ok. Pray to Allah to grant you enough strength to get through this.

[Gaia]

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Amir, look one year is nothing compared to all those feeling you had for her, they're worth 100s of years so all you can do is try clearing your mind (it won't go clear) and its might take you 6 more months or 2 more years to move on, and its gonna be hard as you all ready know! But have your therapy sessions with ALLAH at night and let it all out! Or bus thats all you can do! And let time pass and with each hour you will have less feelings for her! But one day you'll realize you haven't thought of her in some days, And just the way you fell in love, you'll fall out of love and you'll never be able to pin point it when it happend!

It took me 2.5yrs to get over someone, and its was BAD! but just like i said, one day i JUST fell out of lovve, just the way i had fallen in love!!!

and i'm missing someone soo mucchh right now:(

[Iggle]

Hi Guys

I just want to ask if you miss somebody. If you used to talk to them for 2 years every single day. You didnt say anything wrong to them. All the sudden they stop talking to you and stop taking your calls/msges and it stays that way for over a year.

How would you feel?

It looks like they dont care about you anymore and want to forget you. You cant understand why all the sudden they treat you like they never knew you. And say you have tried your best but you just cant help missing them and you cant forget them. Say you think of them everyday, where they are now, what they do, who they are with.

What to do?

All replies Appreciated bros and sisters.

What would I do? Write a love song! Hehe!

Okay being serious, Amir is the same girl you were talking about last time? Who is married and you wanted to confront her Hubby?

:)

[Iggle]

And the ironoic thing is earlier when once when i threatened to leave her after a fight, she attempted to kill herself. Look when its her turn what she does.

Oh yes, it is the same girl.

Amir, let's find you a wife! :)

[Victory]

Amir

Watch this.

[apples_too]

@iggle

Oh yes, it is the same girl.

Amir, let's find you a wife! :)

Wife is not a solution, he has to get over it on his own.

p.s. good to know that guys have feelings too

[Gaia]

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Who said guys don't have feelings??? Yes they may be perverted and all, but they have more feelings than us girls! We girls are the real Kutties:)! One and only time i will support men!

[amir_pindi]

Thankyou for your responses guys. Dude who put the vid up i saw all of that it was identical to my situation.nice one hehe.inspiring...but unliek the girl in the video i doubt she even thinks of me, her shadow is long way away.

enya, haania, gai; u have been so emphatetic and thankx for your advices. tooken on board.

The truth is,I have tried one long year to do everything to forget her. I stayed as busy as possible, reinfored by brain with all the bad things about her.

But she just does not go. I cant fight it anymore, maybe i need to address the issue and confront it.
My parents dont really know about her, but they can sense im lonely, keep to myself all the time. And they are care for me and thats why really want me to get married.

But i dont think it would be wise to take a further step until I am done with her. It would be unfair to girl.

the question that lingers on my head and until i dont get it i dont think i will be satisfied is
Why?

I am yet still in denial how she got married. We were so close, and i also had offers from cousins, but i didnt take them, because of her. She was about to cry once when i told her i got a proposal from my cosuin, and i decided imnot going to hurt her like this ever again.

I felt sorry for this girl and was so considerate of her feelings throughout the whole 2 years of our friendship. Look how She cannot reciprocate even 0.00001%.

I dont know why she never gave me even a chance. Thats what i want to know from her not from anybody else.
I dont know nothing, i just wish she showed some gratitude for all ive done for her.
i dont want her to return anything, just some kind of care.

Why are people like this. Whatver it is, i cant help missing her. I attempted to contact her. Tried everything just to show her that i miss her i just want to see her online again one time like she used to before.

How can someone be so hardhearted.

I get so upset and angry somtimes.
Yes im going maddd, i think im goona die, i cannot tolerate her ignoring me thats all. I want to knwo how it all happned, what were her circumstances that she had to get married suddenly, maybe she had a legit excuse, i mean im sympthateic id probably forgive her.
But i just wish she told me what f...g happned. and long as she speaks to me.
Ive been tryig to ask her this since day one.
I mean How can you just leave someone like this without any explanation.

i misss her to much. i cant help it. if she doesnt care about me im goona die one day.

[apples_too]

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^WOW…she really messed with your head

[CE]

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Just becoz she is now married, dosnt mean to say she doesn't think of u. life goes on

[bob_woolmer]

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theres always tomorrow. stay hopeful. memories are what makes you special, without memories your just be another misrable lonely dude.

oh like enya said. just cos you dunt intend to remember em anymore cos their status in life has changed, it certinly dunt mean that they dunt remember you either.

[amir_pindi]

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^ i know

but i just wished she atleats told me what and why she did that so suddenly.

How can she just get maried at once and forget me. I mean having a relatinship with someone. If it was a majobbori or forced or somthing i just want to know, if she gave me some care she should atleat have explained to me comapred to ignoring me.

how would she or you or aybody else like it, if somone you have been with for so long so close,without any explanation stops everything like that.
I man just because we had a gap of 2 months of not talking, it doesnt mean we have no relation.

i am beggining to feel she is not as nice as I thought. I thought that i sacrificed so much for her she would be somewhat the same towards me. But may it was not like that.

I think she knew it would have hurt me but purposly didnt bother asking me or telling me before doing nikah with somebody else.

what do you think guys.

i dont think i should ever trust a pakistani girl again.

[FairyTale]

^ Now this is wrong that you wont trust any Pakistani gal again. I have yet to see any better gal then a Paki or even some indians gals are very nice.

Anyway the thing is that one should keep least, and i mean LEAST, expectations from others. The least you expect, the better chances you have to survive in this world.

Believe me no one cares, you live or die. you are hurt or in intense pain. Some people know the art to move on with life. The losers are those who want to stick to their past and either keep repenting on what they did in past or keep asking questions which have no answers. hence waste their most precious time.

Move on, she belongs to someone else now. She is not going to answer for any of ur questions. May be you can think of good times you spent together. May be she really had some majboori that she couldnot share with you. You never know. So let it go, bearing the good memories in mind but accept the reality with open heart that she was not for you and already gone to the right person, the one who was chosen for. There must be something better waiting for you. AS they say When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better :)

[cherry123]

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you have been ditched. have some ice cream. listen to some cool sad music and move on.