Whether or not she has Kleptomania.............the OP seems to be having this problem with her sister for quite some time. There seems to be a lack responsibility. Whatever the cause is (could even be resentment toward her older sister/parents)....they need to talk about it.
Yes I agree, they must talk. But talk only after they have accumulated some solid evidence (like a UV die stained hand, and/or video footage of her stealing). Otherwise it will either have zero, or a slightly negative effect...
So talk when you have an upper hand, threaten her with humiliation, tie her down emotionally - And then (as if you are handing out charity), generously let her explain herself.
Shahbaz, the videos were neat. Spy camera sounds interesting. Bait her with a valuable carelessly left out...and then catch her red handed. And if they tape her doing this several times.....and then show it to her....it'll emphasize the idea that she has a "pattern" of indulging in such behavior.
EXACTLY!!! Now you are thinking like me! :)
Oh and by the way, when it comes to carelessly leaving out something valuable - Make sure that it in really has no value. I know that many jewelers make paste jewelry (fake jewelry that is), which they use to put on display. So ordering some of that will do the trick! I am sure the stupid 19 year old will not be able to tell real from fake... :)
Anyway once she has been caught, then of course she should be made to get a job - So she can pay back her parents and elder sister!
Thing is, SHE HAS been caught redhanded, sometimes with the money on her, this was a while back, but either way she denied it, and then there were a few times she did admit it, and started doing draaaaamey, crying and saying sorry and how she wont do it again and how no one in the fmaily talks to her...BS....she is just attention seeking, and always blames someone else...she even began smoking, but blamed someone else for it, how shes a victim she isnt, its all just to blame someone else for her own mistakes.....shes a ssweet as pie to everyone else, she can be ok at home, but shes a thief and even a camera wont work.....she will just become a victim again. I cant be bothered, i dont care for her anymore.
Thing is, SHE HAS been caught redhanded, sometimes with the money on her, this was a while back, but either way she denied it, and then there were a few times she did admit it, and started doing draaaaamey, crying and saying sorry and how she wont do it again and how no one in the fmaily talks to her...BS....she is just attention seeking, and always blames someone else...she even began smoking, but blamed someone else for it, how shes a victim she isnt, its all just to blame someone else for her own mistakes.....shes a ssweet as pie to everyone else, she can be ok at home, but shes a thief and even a camera wont work.....she will just become a victim again. I cant be bothered, i dont care for her anymore.
I dunno Sara. I think a camera would be more embarrassing for her........because she'll HAVE TO SEE HERSELF actually stealing something.
Question is WHY is she doing all this (stealing, .....going to school either late or not at all.....attention-seeking behavior)? Is it Kleptomania (a disorder where the individual feels a compulsion to steal).........is it that she feels nobody at home gives her attention...........low self-esteem..............hostility toward you? Have you and your parents sat down talked about the possible reasons for her behavior.....and then made a list of strategies to try with her.......and give those strategies a few weeks or a couple of months to work...as opposed to giving up quick?
Let’s take it up a notch by saying that now she will have to see herself actually stealing ON YOUTUBE (along with the whole world)! That I think will be the best revenge for Sara! And if she again becomes a “victim”, well then have that uploaded on YouTube too.
See the video below as an example. This ladies and gentlemen is the new face of sibling rivalry, in this digital age - In short, if she wants to become a drama queen, then we better provide an audience!
God, this is horrible Sara. I feel so bad for you, you being preggers and all. You MUST involve your parents in this. And please don't let this get away, gold is very valuable. And if it's given by your parents I'm sure there is sentimental value attached to it as well.
