missing gold :[

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I have a jewellery box with bits of my gold in it, one was a set of six bangles, 2 of the 6 had little patterns on them, indicating they were the main 2, which you put either side of the set of bangles. The 2 would have been worth around £800 min.

Anyway I cant find them now, i wore them 2 weeks ago, and i put them straight back into my box. I know I have not misplaced them. I think someone may have taken it, and im afraid it could be my little sister,whose 19. She has a history of taking 10 or 20 pounds here and there from mum and dad, albiet long time back, and denying it, and then the money being found on her. Im not sure what she would do wtih 800pounds or so…or whatever the value the shop wouldve given her, i hate to think this, but the only explanation for the 2 mssing would be if someone had took them. the other stuff is all ther, just the 2 main ones missing, which seems odd too.

im scared of confronting anyone, incase im wrong. but i do know whoever, if someone, has taken it, no one will own up.

im stressed out big time that ive lost that money, that someone has taken it, im also due ( pregnant) in 3 weeks…scared stiff, and stressed out. I live with my parents, as Husband works in London, while im with parents near birmingham. ive been here a while and i had them 2 weeks back…

Should I ask…( although no one will admit it, and instead just get offended and cause a scene.

what do i say to husband, how can i let him think my own sisters or someone has stolen it…how would that look.

and how do i just get over it.because if someone has taken it, its not coming back is it.

Theres no point confronting her,

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Re: missing gold :

umm, how about your bring it up in a gathering, eg at dinner or smtng, so it doesn't seem like you are pointing at one particular person. Just mention that you lost your bangles and need everyone's help to look for them.

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Re: missing gold :

What will that achieve, nothing, everyone will say dont know.....im sure. thats the usual response, whether guilty or not.

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cant you try having a look in your sisters room or something? just a quick search among her possesion without her knowing. that way no one will be accused at least.
aside from this, maybe you should mention it quietly to your mum or dad, seeing as theyve experience of having money stolen from them?

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In the 99 Names of Allah, there is AL-HAQQ (The Truth).
Meaning: He who's existence has no change.

If anyone who has lost something repeats YA-HAQQ (during prayers), then he or she will find what was lost.

Another one of the 99 Names of Allah is AL-JAME' (The Gatherer).
Meaning: He who collects things, gathers them, anywhere he wants, at any time.

Those who repeat YA-JAME' (during prayers) will find the things that they have lost.

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but what if its not missing but has been sold......?

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Re: missing gold :

Well if I was you, I would talk to my mom about it. Just tell her your gold is missing and I am sure she'll take it seriously. I am close to my mom so I know telling her anything isn't an issue at all.

Your parents can figure it out how to ask your sister if they think she has taken it.

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Then I guess some answer will come from somewhere. When called upon like this, Allah never ignores a devotee. That anyway has been my experience.

So there is no harm in trying this way too, it really can't hurt.

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Re: missing gold :

Thats nice thank you shahbaz, however this is another embarassing thing to say that i dont pray and have forgotten how to. : I have been learning namaz again slowly, but still nowhere near it yet.

I need to be able to get over it, as i know if its been taken, i wont get it back.

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Re: missing gold :

Are you absolutely sure you havent misplaced it? Have you looked everywhere in your room and house? Did you take them off in a restroom somewhere?

Be positive about this. YOu're saying you've been stressed and that can lead to people making mistakes they normally wouldnt make.

Im saying this because this is a serious accusation against your sister and not one that will just go away with time because you're adults now. She will hold this against you if its not true. So, think hard about it. Retrace your steps. Look for them in every possible place.

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Re: missing gold :

^ My thoughts exactly Reha.

Sara, you need to have a very good look around your room/possessions to ensure that it isn't you that has misplaced the gold. You said the pieces that were missing were those that you wore a few weeks ago - everything else is still there right? It may very well be the case that you haven't placed them back where you usually do. I don't mean to be rude when I say this but many women can be quite forgetful when pregnant - my friend was constantly losing/leaving behind her car keys when she was nearing her due date, and she was always blaming it on 'baby brain.'

My mum has on a number of occasions worn something out and then thought that she put it back in it's home but actually hasn't. A bit of looking around the house and its easily located.

Don't start throwing around accusations until you are absolutely sure that the items are no longer in your possession. These are words that once out in the open can never be taken back.

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I seriously doubt if Allah will penalize you for not being able to pray - He is not some stock broker or a banker who’s currency is stacks of prayers… Therefore if your heart is in the right place, I am sure you will not be ignored.

Anyway in the future, please start using things like these to protect your belongings. Coat your jewelery with it, and then the moment you notice something missing - You at once turn on the UV lamp and catch the thief red-handed!

http://www.glowtec.co.uk/uv-dye-tective-info.htm

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Re: missing gold :

This is kind of a stretch but it might work. Use the UV dye Shahbaz recommended to coat the rest of your jewlery and then make no indication that you are aware of the missing items. Try to bait the theif into stealing again, catch them red-handed, and then demand complete repayment.

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Re: missing gold :

Have a thorough check once more. If you still cannot find it, discuss with your mum but do not go and say 'Mum, I think sis stole my gold'. Discuss the issue of the missing gold with your mum, saying you can't find it and don't know what to do.

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You know this idea of yours can indeed bring very good results. So let us all wish for the best! :)

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Re: missing gold :

Search for the bangles again. You're right...if someone took them....nobody will admit to it. If the bangles were given to you by your parents....don't tell him. Don't create a scene over it....because if they have been sold, you're not going to get em back. You're pregnant...don't raise your blood pressure. Talk to your mom in confidence.....and maybe search your sister's room with mom. Could be that your sister borrowed them in a hurry and forgot to put them back. Maybe your mom borrowed them. I guess you can even try talking to your family about it without putting blame on anyone (as that can get sticky). Just calmly explain that you're worried. If your sister has taken them....maybe the guilt will get her to put the bangles back (IF she has them).

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Re: missing gold :

This is why I keep all my gold in a safe.
Anyway, you should tell your parents about this and meanwhile just search your sisters room and her bags. But if she stole it, i doubt she would have kept it in the house. You can try to emotionally test her by crying infront of her and telling her how freaked out you are that your gold is missing and that you will be in big trouble if your husband finds out. Im sure she will feel bad for you and admit that she stole it.

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Here’s another idea that you can try. It’s called fingerprinting! It’s very easy to do, and even if you think you may have handled the box (thereby destroying any prints of the thief) - There still maybe a chance that you’ll get lucky.

Just do what is described in these videos, and then exclude your own prints. What ever may remain after that, will belong to the thief! Next step is to discreetly collect the prints of the suspect - So just ask your sister to hand you a bottle of something, or a glass, and then dust it for prints when you are alone. You will have the answer instantly!


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Re: missing gold :

You must check thoroughly once more. Sometime you skip whats lying just in front of your eyes. Some times, you put something somewhere and your memory lapses. Don't doubt your sister, it could be anyone if the bangles are really stolen.

If you cant find them after a through check, you must talk to others at home. It wont really mean confronting them because you are not going to point finger at them as thieves. You could say you misplaced them and now cant find. If someone did pick up and haven't disposed them off yet, they wouldn't want to be exposed. You could hit the jackpot and find them laying in some corner of the house. So you must speak up.

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Re: missing gold :

as they say, no use of crying over spill milk