Misfits in Desi Society

[eastern11]

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There is a variation of misfits. I believe in religion and am a Muslim but don’t talk about Islam 24 7 like people around me do. More than 10 women around me have taken the hijab, others aspire to take it. It’s a cultural norm to talk about others being fat and thinking that goras are bad and behind every bad thing that goes on. I don’t. In that sense I don’t conform at all.

[Theorist]

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@X2

I don’t find limited to any single society and culture. I guess that is what happens growing up in multiple cultures and countries. I appreciate and enjoy aspects of all, and am not a fan of some aspects of all, but I navigate in and out without feeling a need to fit in any single one.

The random chance that I was born into a intersect of a certain race, religion, ethnicity, nationality is just that isn’t it… i don’t feel a need to try and fit in to what the norms of that intersect are. They are artificial. ..loved and revered by many..but still self made, and no universal truth.

Is non conformist the right term, don’t know…don’t have an issue conforming while interacting with people of that group, but its out of respect for them that I will observe their traditions and culture when with them, but away from it, I do not adapt it unless i find that it personally resonates with me, and even then I drop off and pick up stuff along the way. I was told that this way I am lost and wandering, my response was…I don’t trust any caravan is necessarily headed the right way any way

I want to be just like you when I grow up.

You said it so much better than I ever could. I wish I had better people skills. I think that is the biggest reason why I feel the way I do.

[kakaballi]

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[OYMWA]

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Yeah yeah yeah… ya’ll are unique.. like everybody else.

[Sentry]

@Theorist:10224772

Who else feels like a misfit in Desi society? Do you feel you were born in the wrong culture? Theorist raises hand

Yeah I don’t fit in but then again I don’t think I fit into this era either. Maybe it’s just me.

[Sahdia77]

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I don’t fit in one culture either. I’m Dutch, because I was born and raised in the Netherlands and I love most aspects of Dutch culture. I’m Pakistani too, because my parents were born in Pakistan and I had a Pakistani upbringing, I like many aspects of our Pakistani culture too.

I couldn’t say I belong 100% to Dutch culture, nor 100% to Pakistani culture. And I don’t mind not completely fitting in. It was terrible while growing up, but as an adult I have no problem with it.

You’ll find your place with time and feel better about it. It’s all part of growing up.