Who else feels like a misfit in Desi society? Do you feel you were born in the wrong culture? Theorist raises hand
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what society do you feel you’d fit in better, theo bhaijaan?
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^BhaBIjan, bro. I don’t know whether or not there is a place where I would feel at peace. I just know I don’t fit in where I am.
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Last time I checked this condition/syndrome is called narcissism. 
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^I am pretty sure I have narcissistic tendencies but I can assure you my reasons for not being able to fit in have very little to do with narcissism. I don’t know why a little bit of individuality in our culture is frowned upon. Don’t understand why our society feels threatened by someone who can think for themselves. This is especially true for women. I have battled this issue all my issue and so have many others.
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Color me surprised OP.
Muh sides are no where to be found.
Please explain “little” bit of individuality.
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And last time I checked it is called oxymoron.
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Ethan, what do you mean your sides are no where to be found?
A little bit of individuality is exactly what it is.
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That’s not an oxymoron, far from it actually. My not fitting in has nothing to do with my narcissistic tendencies. I am probably very narcissistic from desis’ perspective because I know how to think. There are things I dislike about our culture and religion, which are perfectly fine with others and others do well in such an environment while I suffer. It’s like fighting a battle in my head that I know I won’t win. Constantly rethinking my ways of doing things and constantly wondering why I can’t be accepted for who I am. Why must I be like everyone to be accepted? Why is voicing my opinion such a crime that I must be shot down that I must be reminded of my roots and gender and how my kind should behave? If I am not causing problems for others then why can’t people just let me live the way I want? Why must I conform to be liked or accepted?
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I don’t think narcissists know that they are one.
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I do have misanthropic, cynical and hedonistic tendencies but that has nothing to do with being a misfit or being born in the wrong culture. All of us have this superficial view that we know a lot more than others, are rational, intellectual, and everyone else is just a dumb moron, a fascist or fundamentalist. In other words everyone of us thinks that we are special/chosen/blessed or whatever… And since each and everyone is thinking this same thing therefore we are one of them too, so no difference actually… 
For peace of mind try and think answer to this question:
Is there any human born to date who has made such an impact on our planet/universe that they will be remembered after say 2 billion years?
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Edit: Actually, I don’t need to say everything I just did and then deleted it. It’s not your fault you misread my post. I did sound misanthropic. It’s not that I don’t like people. I just believe in live and let live. Knowing how to think for myself means exactly that. I can make my own decisions and know what’s best for me. I am not saying I know what’s best for everyone. This has nothing to do with being intellectually superior to others or thinking others are dumb morons.
I don’t think of myself as someone special or with above average intelligence. I am quite average actually. I certainly don’t think others are dumb morons. Yes, I am blessed. When I say I don’t belong where I am, I really mean it! Not only have I been told that on numerous occasions, I have been made to feel this way A LOT since childhood. It’s a deep dull uneasy feeling - kind of like you have never rested.
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Make babies.
So they would belong to you.
You wont long any more belongings.
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LOL! Thanks for not quoting me. I edited my post. I don’t really want babies. I would probably want to give them away the next day.
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See its not important to sing in course or dance in sync.
But you can still have your own role in society and people’s life,
being misfit has advantage that you could look at things other people miss some times. 
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Agreed. I am just wondering if others here feel this way. I didn’t actually mean for this to get this serious. People always read what’s not there. -__-
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You are not a misfit. More like a non-conformist.
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^What’s the difference? I really don’t know actually. So are there any non-conformists on GS?
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yes, you.
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Kudos to you , I wanted to say this but you said it.
And you think that other desis or majority of desies around you do not know how to think? 
You have fundamental right to dislike your culture and your religion. But what makes you think that you are right and they are wrong in liking things about their religion and their culture.
If you have a strong argument in favor of your disliking about the religion and culture others have an equaly strong and opposite argument.
If you do not think so then spell out your arguments in favor of you dislike about the things you do not like about your culture and religion and I or someone else would give you equally strong counter argument. I guarantee you that.
If you feel you are different then why are you longing for acceptance by the group/s who’s culture and religion you dislike?
You can start your own support group of like minded people, there are more than 6 billion people on this planet I am sure you can find at least 5 who would relate to your line of thinking unless you are the chosen one and you were ordained with some unique thinking or talent. If you think that yes you are the chosen one and you can prove it then I would be the first one to accept you as my leader.
Again why do you care? You can tell them what Quran said more than 1400 years ago. " To you your religion/ways/lifestyle/culture/beliefs and to my my religion/ways/lifestyle/culture/beliefs." and go your marry way to the people who relate your line of thinking.
If you do not like to attach Quranic reference to this golden rule you do not need to.
For third time why you want to be liked and accepted by the group which is forcing you to conform to be liked or accepted?
Can you please share some specific examples. The last s sentence of your post makes me to think that you are suffering from some kind of depression. I might be wrong.
Very wise advice.
You are underestimating powers of human minds and psyche.
I am one of the biggest non conformist but it does not give me a right to make everybody conform to my line of thinking or my ways. I do voice my opinion and if someone agrees that is well and good if they do not then I am OK with that too.
Being non conformist does not mean you do not like everything and everybody around you.
And it does not mean that you make everybody else to conform to your thinking and your ways.