Re: miserable marriage
And yeah he touched me only once n thats all on the wedding night.......
Re: miserable marriage
Thinking does my life end after this n what will happen next ??
My inlaws have a problem with everything I do, dont know if my personal life ends after this. They have a problem if I talk to my relatives, if I text my friends, if I tell my mom what i ate, tel her about my routine etc, if I stay longer in my room n the list goes on....
Really feeling lyk a servant...
God. If your parents are ok with you leaving, then think about it. I hate the idea of divorce, but this is no way to live.
Re: miserable marriage
Giving it some time might help. You may ask your husband to have an open and frank discussion with you as a friend only. You can assure him that you might help him with everything he is going through. You might consider discussing divorce with him as an option but don't mention divorce at the beginning of the discussion. Try to show him your willingness to work towards saving your marriage. It seems he wants to save the marriage too thats why he's not being harsh with you or has not brought up the option of divorce to you till now. It seems that he's just taking some time to adjust with you and accepting this marriage. You should help him with this and this might save your marriage.
If you don't see any improvement in say 6 months time, you can seriously start considering divorce. But don't go for divorce immediately as he is not physically abusing you and there is no major reason for this until you yourself think that there is no chance that things are going to improce in the future.
the best in your situation
Also i suggest you to recite surah yasin twice a day and "ya wadoodo" 21 times after every farz namaz Allah will turn his heart for you inshAllah plz remain happy and attractive all the time infront of him not sooner may be later he will start noticing you inshAllah atleast try this for 6 months you have a long life ahead inshAllah so if u get separated in the age of even 21 tub b kuch nai bigray ga so give this time and effort then conclude and make decision
Re: miserable marriage
yes, good advice given by all, give it some more time... May Allah help you dear amin
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And what do your parents say now that they have encouraged you into this mess?
I was married at 19 and to a complete stranger because it happens like this in our family ....... and i tried to communicate buh he was so reserved and all the time on phone too it was me to talk, i told this to my mother too before marriage buh she has no such thing like him loving someone else in her mind so she was all to say hes a "shareef larka" so he dint try to do any such thing , n btw i cried at that time too because he was so reserved n i m kind of easy going person n i have tons n tons of friends out there besides there is a big age gap too between us , he is soon turning into 28, so i was like he is too old n reserved for me still I married him him cause of family....
I always make dua that may love and understanding grow and flourish between us....
About education i dont know why he doesnt stand up in front of his parents , i literally begged and got the permission from his parents to carry on with my education and only after a week he said now u cant continue n if u want to study go to ur dads place and 'jitna parhna hai parho '.....