I’m sorry to hear about your losses but let me reassure you that you have as high as 75% chances of going onto have a successful next pregnancy.
Now i’m presuming from your nick that you are 26 yrs old and that both miscarriages occured at different periods of gestation. I’ll just briefly explain the various reasons this occurs and what can or cannot be done.
The first one at 12 wks was most likely due to causes that cannot be cured like chromosomal abn and hence the pregnancy is incompatible with life and would eventually abort. This DOES NOT mean that there is something wrong with you or your partner .
The second one was whats called a mid trimester miscarriage which basically occurs after 12 weeks and one of the reasons maybe cervical incompetence in 5-10%. Your history does suggest an element of cervical weakness in that you were fully dilated when you presented to the doctors.
Now in such cases there are 2 schools of thought. Some gynaecologists believe the history alone is sufficient to suggest whats called a cervical cerclage ( stitch) in the next pregnancy whereas others (most) believe that a cerclage is only indicated if you have a history of 2 or more mid trimester miscarriages or preterm deliveries or proof of shortening cervix during the next pregnancy.
What I suggest is if you are worried to have a pelvic scan to make sure there are no other uterine abnormailites like a septum etc. Measuring the cervical length now is of no benefit as it does not predict a miscariage or preterm delivery.
I would advise you to first space your next pregnancy primarily so you can recover from your losses and then when you do concieve to report early in pregnancy as soon as you miss a period and have positive pregnancy test so that your doctors can schedule your scans and monitor you more closely.
The cervical cerclage if required is usually done at the end of the first trimester so at 13–14 weeks . It is a relatively safe procedure however it does carry a small risk of miscarriage as with any operative interventions in pregnancy.
However I would probably think you would be monitored for cervical length with transvaginal scans and if they do detect a shortening then the doctors will schedule you for the cerclage.
Bedrest hasn’t been proven to be of much benefit and certainly not compared to cerclage. Yes , you should take things easy but that doesn’t mean u need to restrict you activities drastically.
I lost my son at 23weeks gestation due to an incompetent cervix, since it was my first pregnancy we werent aware that my cervix was weak. When we got pregnant again 4mons later, the OB put in a suture at 13wks. I was asked to take things slow and light, no heavy lifting, no climbing stairs etc.
At 26wks I went in for what my doctor thought was a waste of his time and also had a fever. Turns out my membranes had ruptured the suture had not held the cervix in place, I had dilated 2cms and was risking infection. I was rushed by ambulance to a hospital in downtown. Our baby girl was born at 23wks and 5 days, weighing 2lbs. It was a tough ordeal however she is home now and has no complications due to being a preemie.
Getting a suture does not guarantee a full term pregnancy, just be careful and cautious. You will have minor cramping and spotting after the surgery however it all subsides after awhile.
Good luck and remember only you know when the best time is to get pregnant again.
and Ahasna i am relly sorry for ur loss..we humans are really helpless.. no matter what we do but in the end we have to submit ourselves to the will of Allah..all we can do is to Pray.I have seen that when every thing proves to be ineffective this is the only and only effective thing..
Some times i get really really worried..and i Pray and pray and pray.
May Allah help us and has his Mercy upon us. Amen
Shab I had a misscarriage after my first born and I waited only 1 mnth because I thought I am ready for it and Mashallah ALLAH gave me abeautiful healthy son, but since I had low progestrone so docs gave me some medications for pregnancy harmones.
That is such an insensitive thing to say to someone who has lost a child. Only who has been there knows the pain of it so please dont make light of the situation.
That is such an insensitive thing to say to someone who has lost a child. Only who has been there knows the pain of it so please dont make light of the situation.
yes I agree, I think alot of people can be unsensitive eg making comments like u mentioned, or pickin up on spelling mistakes and then makin group jokes about this, I think some people are just very bored or just wanna make up posts, I think cafe should be used for this, not parenting forum!!
