MILs come for an extended holiday to UK and is staying with us. i don't want her here and she knows it but that's another issue. The point of this thread is that she doesn't wash often enough and she smells also, the worse thing is the state that she leaves the toilet in! why should i clean her sh@t!!! Now, my question is how do I introduce her to the toilet brush!!
Hmmmm ajuba if she is here for a few days and not permanently then sabar karo ! otherwise use one of your kid and scold him/her for leaving the toilet dirty in front of your MIL i.e. you communicate indirectly everything by lecturing your kid. May be she gets the idea then ! I know it's unfair to the kid but really what other way can you solve this problem :(
Pretend to scold your children in front of your MIL about keeping the bathroom clean at all times and taking showers. Safai nisf imaan hai and all of that.
Also...use the toilet tabs as Mabrook suggested...they usually are pretty strong and keep the bowl clean too.
Get one of those automatic fresheners that go off every few minutes.
Sister Ajuba, I can kind of understand your situation, my FIL is coming this Friday, just for a short visit as usualy, 3-3 half weeks. He doesn't use my toilet near my bedroom, he uses the kids bathroom, and I have to say the toilet is messier than usual, I did once mention to DH as I was cleaning why it was so messy, DH said he would do it as it was his father. I havn't however ever asked DH to clean it, I just add lots and lots of bleach and never let the bottles of bleach run out during his stay. I don't think I could bring myself to asking him to "take it easy" in the bathroom. He's only here for a short time, I will just get on with it and he will go back.....end of story!!!!
It's one of those things that people using the bathroom should use their AKAL ke leave the bathroom how you would like to see it.
when my mil was here she used to do the most funniest thing. she would just splash the whole washroom( hardwood flooring) with water while using it. so we had to cover our entire floor with extra towels through out her stay. now that did annoy me but i just closed my eyes n lips tight.
when my mil was here she used to do the most funniest thing. she would just splash the whole washroom( hardwood flooring) with water while using it. so we had to cover our entire floor with extra towels through out her stay. now that did annoy me but i just closed my eyes n lips tight.
Get towels, candles, keep it looking and smelling nice, slowly I hope she would think that it's her .
No! If she's really that lethal then candles, or indeed anything flammable, would be a bad move.
Ajuba, have you considered that it might be your cooking? :P
I wouldn't use the kids or anything like that, might sound too much like a tanaa. Would be more in favour of a slightly more straightforward approach. Mention to her that the plumbing isn't great and that you all have to flush twice, and also tell her that the toilet brush is there too. Often it is not what we say but how we say it that matters.
As for the supposed smell, if your intentions are purely to help her, then tell her you're going to spend an afternoon pampering her; give her a massage, run her a long hot bubble bath, make sure her clothes are washed etc. This obviously requires effort on your part.
If you can't expend the effort, then don't say anything at all. Simply suck it up.
Also, I hope you're not being mean to her because of said smelliness; I support her right to be as stinky as she chooses.
The toilet tabs would not be that good in my case, as the "mess" is usually spluttered on the top edges, ( sorry TMI), would the tab be effective this high up. I don't even know if we have them here in the UK, i havn't ever seen them here sounds like something I would like to try all the time really.
As for the personal hygiene problem, we had one of DHs female cousins visit us from PK , she stayed for about 3-4 days, and suffered from bad body odour. I was so embarrassed if I had any one visit as she would also be present and it was quite bad. People in PK especially the older people don't use deodorants they just shower I think. We were invited to my mumus for dinner with the cousin, I could not take her like that, so I gave her some toiltetries, deodorants, and explained what each was for, she used them and it was better but not completely eradicated.
Thanks for the suggestions. I just generally don't like her being here so the bad hygiene just makes it worse...........last time she came she left the bathtub in a right state and I actually said it to her face and she denied it! she was like, no, I cleaned it!! this time I just can't seem to muster up the courage and as the issue is more with the actual toilet its more sensitive then the bath tub.
Ajuba, does she have a thyroid problem? This relative of mine is only 25 and she has really bad body odor due to a thyroid problem and doesn’t realize it. Despite using deodorants and perfumes regularly, daily showers, etc… she still smells weird (I know cuz for instance I will be at her home, she would just be out after a shower with wet hair and you can still smell odor ). I don’t know how to discuss the issue with her, its kind of awkward .
Dont say anything to her directly or indirectly.
Keep the automatic air freshener and scented body washes. let her know u do laundry every 2, 3 days so she should feel free to put her clothes in the wash. Use fabric softers ( i love downy simple pleasures) the clothes come out smelling awesome!
The double flushing because of bad plumbing is also a good idea but tell ur kids a day before she gets here so ur kids are used to it and ur mil doesn't suspect its a new thing because of her.
use the bleach/ disinfectant tabs in the toilet tank.
Who knows ur mil might love the body wash and want to continue even after she leaves :)
somethings r not worth creating an unpleasant atmosphere over
certain foods we eat, hormonal issues and some medicines can also cause BO
Thanks for the suggestions. I just generally don't like her being here so the bad hygiene just makes it worse...........last time she came she left the bathtub in a right state and I actually said it to her face and she denied it! she was like, no, I cleaned it!! this time I just can't seem to muster up the courage and as the issue is more with the actual toilet its more sensitive then the bath tub.
can u hire someone just to clean ur washroom/s twice a week or may be daily?
). I don’t know how to discuss the issue with her, its kind of awkward 
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