Reha
October 17, 2017, 10:35pm
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Re: millenials/ marriage/ Long term goals
I am been thinking about this for sometime.
Few of my female cousins/ friends are in their 30’s and not married. They all have good jobs, are attractive and for various reasons choose not to get married or haven’t found someone they like.
I was talking to my mom and she mentioned my aunt (who is in her 50’s and unmarried) is not well and according to her feeling lonely. She blamed it on her not being married. I argued back saying if she wanted, she could have adopted kids (plenty who need good homes) or she could spend time in things like volunteering etc. She also scolded me for not advising my unmarried cousins.
I may have said all the above for argument sake but it’s a hard one where I don’t want to advise my cousins/friends on something I am not completely sold on. BTW I am happily married (I took my time and married someone I really fell in love with but would have been okay if we hadn’t met and was single). I have seen lot of broken marriages/issues and hate the idea of people marrying because it’s the right time or right thing to do. I also believe there are so many other things in life that we could focus and dedicate our lives to. I sometimes feel a bit selfish to have/ raise kids and live in a little bubble without concerning or thinking about the burden we bring to this world and our selfish needs (The list is long; overpopulation, overuse of resources, the declining population of every species except ours and of those that fulfill our needs in any way or form)
Anyway:), my question is what do you guys things of marriage in today’s age especially the millennials (born after 84) and expectations as we move into our 30’s and 40’s. Is it that important? Are relationships going to be that long-lasting? Is it harder than our parents had it?
Also what to do guys think of what’s happening around us and do you in anyway contribute to the betterment?
I would like to hear what you’ll think in general even it’s the opposite.
Marriage is not a necessity anymore for women and that (to me) is a huge part of the “issue” if you want to call it one. A woman does not have to cook and clean and stay stuck to her man at all costs anymore…she can easily move out, get her own place and lead a respectable life.
Women have changed but men have not.