Princess Fiona, a bidah literally means innovation.
TLK, I agree with you that it is a bidah and all bidahs are considered 'bad' by most of our scholars. But, our scholars have not put a full stop on this bidah because it brings good. What I said about crossing boundaries, I meant if you look the milads in Pakistan/India, they have introduced money, food, set dates, etc.etc.. so many to list. This is why our Ulema have discouraged one to organize such events but in no way they classified this as haram. (You can look up Mufti Taqi Usmani's fatwa on this matter.)
Anyways, I think we've discussed this in the past under "Milad" thread.. and my conclusion is we leave these matters to our scholars.
I dont like the large events where people just go to show off because the point is lost there completely.
I know we should leave it to our scholars but sometimes I feel as if this cannot be that complicated. Or is it just me? I know they are more knowledgable than I but there has to be a reasoning behind all of this? They have access to the same Quran and Hadith we do, correct?