MIL

[Deeba1234]

@lahori99

so you pretty much want a man to leave his mother for you. Mother who raised him and was there for him all his life In our culture if a man who leaves his mother for a woman, would get no respect from me. A woman walks into his life and tells him “move out, leave ur your parents” and he does. screw him. Any woman who wants you to leave your mother for her, isn’t the woman who want be with. Just my opinion

I said she could live with us in our house if she was old or lonely but I wouldn’t live with his entire family in their home. Practically every other race of men are able to leave their mummies and daddies homes without kicking up a fuss so I can’t really understand what the problem is for some Pakistani/Indian/Bangladeshi guys. In almost every single other culture (inc Muslims ones) a man isn’t considered a real man if he’s not willing to grow up and provide a separate home for his new wife. By wanting to live separate he’s not ‘leaving her’ anyway, there are things called phones if she needs to speak to him and he can visit as often as he wants, also wouldn’t encourage him to move far away anyway, a half-hour’s drive or so at most if possible..

Also, many of our own dads moved to the west permanently, how come they aren’t labelled as ‘abandoning’ their families?? There were jobs ‘back home’ if they really wanted to stay there to look after their families.. oh yeah stupid me they weren’t married back then so no wife to blame for ‘taking away’ their precious sons