Are you ok with your MIL living with you? Or would you avoid rishtas where you’re being told that your MIL will have to live with you?
(question is for both girls and guys).
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I am okay .. as long she is not gona poke into every single house hold thingy!
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I am fine with it… as long as she knows her place and doesnt try bossing about too much… in my case it’s a no no.
She just takes pride in her extra son. 
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doesn't work for me.
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MIL’s are very dangerous, i’ll avoid if i can:no:
but if i know her well and if she’s a real good lady then i’d love to live with her as the joint family concept is quite an appealing one:)
Are you ok with your MIL living with you? Or would you avoid rishtas where you're being told that your MIL will have to live with you?
(question is for both girls and guys).
I had actually prefer that over living seperately. Call me mad, weird or stupid but i like and believe in the joint family system :). And i would like to add here, i am not alien to the fact that living in a joint family system or with your mil means there is a high possibility of conflicts n arguments. But its ok, happens with our own family too and as long as you treat them as your own family things cant get that bad or so one hopes.
There is no point in marrying a man whose mother the woman does not like.
A women should take her MIL as her mother and treat her like she treats her mother.
No respectable man can keep a wife who misbehaves with his mother.
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^^what if the girl is really nice to her MIL but the MIL just doesnt like the fact that her son is being nice to another woman, even though he doesnt disrespect her?....what if everything's fine and she's still mean to her DIL?
long back i used to think tht it's the girls who were to blame but then i've seen it myself that even if the girl's nice some MIL's just dont like their daughter in laws
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What I stated is without keeping these "what ifs" in mind. There can be many what ifs from MIL too.
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My grandparents lived with us and had a big hand in our upbringing + buzrugaun say ghar mayn rehmat aati hay + I want 2 live with my son but first I hv 2 find his father :hinna:
so ya MIL/FIL FTW
:k:
if the MIL is good and the girl’s good as well then that would be the best thing for the family
living in a joint family’s more rewarding than alone, in every way…together with help in taking care of the children in the case where both parents are working, the children also grow up in an environment of love, unity, and good values i guess…
but then there’s another problem as well, story doesnt end with MIL’s only, in a joint family, most likely the other brothers and sisters of the husband will be there too..no problem with the sisters, but if the brothers are there then the girl will have to be in hijab all day long:eek:
Not true, at-least not in my bhabi’s case.
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^is she a hijabi?
course the brothers of her husband are na-mahram to her, so a hijabi should be in hijab even at home if there are any na-mahrams present
sorry PCG for going off topic:@:
uff tauba 
Now I understand the need for women to live alone with their husbands.
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Nope, only cz I dont believe I should have to do parda/hijab in my own home. There are some things u just wouldn't wear even around other women, just out of respect for them
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Well it gets hard if you do hijaab/niqab because then you'd be always tensed and limited in your own home. S really you'd just have your bedroom as your own. I know many friends in this situation. They make rotis wearing their abayas and niqabs on because their devars and jeths and susarjee are around. It's hard for them.
However, if this isn't an issue and your husband is happily living at his home with his family, sure, then why not.
Also, in some cases when parents retire and let's say you're in another city/country and they decide to come live with you, then again, it's a privilege. Definitely an adjustment but for both parties.
To decide ahead of time...how can you really? You just can't know how a person is until you live with them. You have to get married into a family with good faith and good expectations. If it's your husband's mom, it's his mom and he loves her. So best to be OK with it. If things don't work out, options can be created later.
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^you explained it really well:phati:
the parents are fine but with the rest of the family, it’s just not going to be ok
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cooking in abaya and niqaab, because your BIL is around...
Wow. And I thought I had problems.